does counseling help? how much to tell?

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Registered: 05-26-2009
does counseling help? how much to tell?
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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 2:26pm

I have had a few A's in the past year and a half- mostly just physical, for the excitement. My most recent one was completely the opposite. We fell in love and had to stop because of his guilt. I am miserable now, and find myself questioning my M even more. I feel like I should work on my M for my kids sake, but am wondering how I was sooooo happy with XAP. I was more myself with him then the last 7 years of my M put together! I am thinking about going to counseling to help sort my feelings.

Has anyone ever done counseling? Does it help? Also, IF I do go, so I focus on my marriage, or do I tell the counselor about my A's... I want help, not judgement.

Any stories or suggestions are appreciated. All I know if I am miserable and cant stop crying from XAP ending it yesterday, and wishing I could either be happy in my M, or out of it.

Thanks!

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 2:43pm

we are of the same mindset today music - I was considering the counseling thing today as well - and wondered how much was too much or if because of legal binding of privacy it would be worth it to be completely honest and open and lay it all out on the table....(how good would that feel?)


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