Does he feel the same way I do?

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Registered: 03-15-2010
Does he feel the same way I do?
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Mon, 03-15-2010 - 1:57pm

Hi everyone.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Mon, 03-15-2010 - 2:27pm

First of all, welcome to MAS!

I have to say that the thing that jumps out at me most is the fact that your AP talked you into becoming his patient, and uses that time with you for sex! Do you get any PT in those sessions? Do you, or your insurance co., pay for them? What a deal for him if he gets paid for those sessions - he gets to have sex with someone he is attracted to and he gets paid! I wouldn't like the way that would make me feel.

If he really enjoys time with you, then test him. Tell him you don't want to have your sessions be the only time you get together, so you're ending those sessions and going back to your chiropractor (who you might really NEED) and you hope that he will continue to see you elsewhere. This will show you really fast if he has any feelings for you or if he thinks of your R as a "fling" or something more. If he has feelings, he will make the time to see you, and he should be sorry that he took you away from sessions with the chiropractor that you need. He should understand how you would want your R to take place elsewhere.

He is being very unethical, as far as I'm concerned. Please think about that before sharing any feelings you have at this point.

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Registered: 03-15-2010
Mon, 03-15-2010 - 4:01pm

Thank you so much for your response.

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Registered: 09-07-2009
Mon, 03-15-2010 - 4:17pm

Dear Cake~~

Hey lady Lexis post was excellent....don't have much to add except you mention that he knows too many people to risk seeing you on the side, on the other hand you mention that his co-workers are suspicious?

You are having sex with this man just bite the bullet and ask him the questions you need answered hun..I know how hard it is but if he cares for you it won't scare him away...if he doesn't well then you have your answer.

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Registered: 03-15-2010
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 2:51pm

Thank you so much.

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Registered: 02-10-2005
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 3:08pm
Hi....Im new to this board but I just saw your message and it really applied to me as well. I just posted my first post that I semi-told my AP how I was feeling and I think I may have scared him off. However, I did want to reiterate what others were saying about just coming out and yanking off that band-aid...particularly before you get in too deep. Luckily my A is only a month old, and even while it hurts now to be rejected, I know it would hurt a hell of a lot more if I had waited too much longer. If it is meant to be and he is interested, he will respond favorably and if not, you have your answer and it will be time to move on. Hugs to you because I know how it feels!
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Registered: 03-15-2010
Thu, 03-18-2010 - 9:31am

Florida, thank you so much for your kindness.