Does it bother you when MM/W have sex?

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Does it bother you when MM/W have sex?
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Thu, 09-04-2003 - 12:41am
I'm curious to know how many of you out there get upset over the knowledge that your MM has sex with their W? There are occasions when I know that my MM has with his, and it makes me feel pretty lousy. It's a touchy subject with us, and although we are pretty open and honest with each other, special occasions (like anniversaries or birthdays) can just send me over the edge. So my question is this: how do you deal with it?

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Fri, 09-05-2003 - 4:32pm
I am thirding Sweet. No, it did not bother me. I figured I am in an EMA, so why shouldn't the MM be having sex with the W. Its not like we are seeing each other exclusively as in dating.


Edited 9/5/2003 4:57:44 PM ET by charmed1007
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 8:10pm
After 3 years, we still NEVER discuss it. I have no idea what he does/doesn't do with W. I no longer have sex with my H. The thought of it kills me and I would rather not know.

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RH

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Sat, 09-06-2003 - 12:15am
Like red harts we never discuss it and it has been 3 years next month for us, I do not want to know it would hurt me to much.
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Sun, 09-07-2003 - 9:50pm
That's a really good question. I used to be ok with it when I was still m and it was the beginning of our A. But after I fell inlove and left my H, I had a very hard time with it. Even though I knew they hardly ever spoke to each other let alone touched each other. He plans to leave very soon and they haven't done anything in months. I did tell him not that long ago, that I couldn't deal with him sleeping w/her anymore. That he better not go there again with her if he plans on being with me. So either he lies to me, which I doubt or he's not gone near her in months. She's starting to push for therapy, so I know she's going to start in on their lack of sex. So he better take a hike real soon. I can't and won't deal with them "working it out" anymore. He said he wants to and will leave, so I won't deal with those things anymore. If he didn't say he'd leave and I still wanted to continue the A, I'd go crazy everytime I thought that they might have sex. The funny thing is that on their annv. and his birthday, he had sex with me instead. Not that that's funny, but I know without a doubt that he wouldn't go from her to me in the same day, so knowing that he was with me I knew that he woudln't be with her. Which also got me into the habit of us doing it everyday. Cause then they weren't doing it. I know, sneaky. But I wanted to anyway, that was just a side benefit!

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