does it stay the same

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Registered: 12-04-2003
does it stay the same
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Thu, 12-04-2003 - 4:46pm
I have been "in" an affair for 6 or so months now. I feel like I am needing my lover more and more. Does the emotional need get less and how linked is it to the sexual passion? I would say we are both falling in love but at this time want to stay in our marriages because of the children. We talk almost everyday and see eachother almost everyday. We manage sex once or twice a week. I just hate letting him go. I don't know if I can get more attached then I already am. I don't want to think it is more then it is because it's so early in the relationship.
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Registered: 10-23-2003
Fri, 12-05-2003 - 8:23am
IMHO, it never stays the same...its a bunch of hills and valleys...

Ive been involved for 2 years now and just when I think we're leveling out and finding some normalcy in our relationship we hit a valley, then a peak, then a valley...LOL

cl-liberalgirl

callmeliberal@hotmail.com

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 12-05-2003 - 8:32am
I have been involved with my MM for 3 months.. before I started this I thought it would be an easy situation to deal with, but as I am finding out there is nothing easy about this. There are days when I wonder will it get easier or just more difficult? Any answers?

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 10-06-2003
Fri, 12-05-2003 - 8:36am
AAHHHH the honeymoon stage!! Just like with any R things change, situations change. I believe I still need and want MM just as much as I did those first few months. We saw each other 3 or 4 times a week, we call 4 or 5 times a day, we chated on line every night, and that was not enough, things are different now, we see each other once a week, we call 2 times a day, and we never chat anymore (my H is home at night now), I miss the other, but as much as I need him and want him, I dont want to risk getting cought!!

We never go with out contanct by phone or email, but there are times we dont get to see each other. You learn to adjust. You learn to cherish every second

Just yesterday as I was leaving MM, I said I wish we had more time, to which he said, you'd get tried of me if we did. I dont believe I would, but I have never spent day after day with him, but someday I will!!

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Registered: 05-21-2003
Fri, 12-05-2003 - 11:28am
I love him so much it scares me sometimes. If something ever happened to "us" it would break my herat into a million pieces. In any R I guess the longer it goes on the more your heart becomes involved. Good luck. My MM's motto is "take it slow".