Does that make me crazy?

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Registered: 04-01-2008
Does that make me crazy?
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Tue, 06-23-2009 - 12:00pm

It has been two months since I've had to stop talking to my AP, after everything hit the fan and he had to tell his wife, he told me goodbye. A couple of times throughout our 5 month affair he's said that if his wife ever found out he would promise her he wouldn't talk to me and that he would keep that promise.


I guess it's because we've broken off a couple of times and always came back, that I thought maybe he would talk to me again. I have tried a couple of times but no response. it's sooooo hard and I know I probably need to stop. His bday is coming up, and I want to sent him an email and say happy bday, & just tell him that I hope his life is going well and that i'm thinking about him.


Is it normal to still have thoughts about the person all the time even after you know it's over and it's been two months? The main thing I guess, I just wish I knew "Is he thinking about me"? and "Was it really that easy to say goodbye"? I wish I had some closure to help me cope with the loss, just a response is all.

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Registered: 01-12-2009
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 12:25pm

I think it is very normal for you to wonder what he's feeling and to feel a loss because this R ended.

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Registered: 04-01-2008
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 1:29pm

I guess so, I know in my head that I should just leave it alone, I guess I just wish I could provoke some response in him because I hate to be ignored. I just want to know that he misses me and that what we had was special even though it really had to end, and instead I got a cold goodbye with no comforting words or anything to make myself feel better.


Well thanks for the response and encouragement

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-24-2009 - 12:32am

he misses you, what you had together was special and will not be forgotten, it's just not that easy.

I agree that you have to love him enough to let him go. It really did have to end and if things don't work out with his w, you can bet he'll let you know.

Don't you feel like a teen who just got dumped? No wonder they are such an emotional bunch!