does MM keep wedding band on w/intimate

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does MM keep wedding band on w/intimate
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Tue, 11-11-2003 - 8:44pm
MM keeps wedding band on when we are intimate. I dont wear mine. Sometimes when we are intimate , I just want to scream , "Take it off or be with her right now instead of me." Can I get some other replies on this ...If he wears it , and how it makes you feel. I feel like it is a slap in the face. thanks, Kitty

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 11-11-2003 - 9:03pm

Hi kittykat,


I don't really know what sort of relationship you and MM have to fully understand why you feel this way.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 11-12-2003 - 10:07am
My MM doesn't wear a wedding band. I wear mine sometimes but it's really something that neiter one of us has ever thought about. Why would it be a slap in your face? Can you imagine what his W would feel like if she knew what he was doing while he had it on? Just a thought! NMR
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-12-2003 - 10:27am
when MM and i are together, i generally take my other rings off, but not one on my left hand, third finger. i'm not married, but it means the same thing to me as a wedding ring would. MM NEVER takes his off unless he's working on engines, etc. where it would be a hazard. neither one of us has ever asked about rings. we're just happy to be with each other whenever possible!

i'm not sure why you're upset about the ring. it's part of him and the M. you get the fun part!

take care,

gurl

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 11-12-2003 - 10:35am
I always wear mine and only take it off when showering or when I put lotion on. MM does not wear one ever. He lost it many years ago and doesn't want to wear one. He is married after all and if he did wear one I don't think it would bother me.
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Wed, 11-12-2003 - 11:43am
My MM doesn't possess a wedding ring and me wearing all three of mine has never been a problem. We've never even talked about my wearing them. Like others have said, we just enjoy the time we have together.
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Registered: 02-12-2002
Wed, 11-12-2003 - 1:38pm
So if he took it off, would that make him not married?

Face it, he IS married. He made a vow, which he is breaking, and the ring is the visible sign of it. To pretend otherwise is to hide your head in the sand.

I take mine off because I prefer to take off all my jewelry at such times. He leaves his on because he never takes it off. Makes zero difference to me.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Sat, 11-15-2003 - 9:05pm
Wow. what a good question.

I guess MM and I have our heads in sand. We always, always, always take our weeding rings off. In fact last Christmas Eve we met at a hotel after work and we only had a couple of hours to be together..well MM was in such a hurry (w called and he was late for some sort of meeting of thiers) and he left his wedding ring..it was under a towel in bathroom. I had to keep it with me on CHRISTMAS day so that I could return it back to him at work. Unreal..it was the strangest feeling to have his ring in my purse. At work I had to give it to him in an interoffice envelope. He said he really hated to put it back on and did not wear it til next day. It was gut wrenching indeed. Cheetah

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 11-15-2003 - 9:17pm
What a perfect response. You hit the nail on the head exactly, shouldi.

As usual!

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Sun, 11-16-2003 - 10:10am
because of the kind of business mm is in, he can't and hasn't worn a wedding ring in years. Me, I am not married, just living with my BF of 15 years, so I don't have to worry about the wedding ring thing anyhow. would it bother me? nope, it wouldn't if he did wear one. I knew he was married when we started.

HTH

Tam

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Sun, 11-16-2003 - 11:25am
I'm not married, but I have worn my grandmother's wedding and engagement ring on that finger since she passed away several years ago. I don't take it off. MM always wears his wedding band, but one day while we were together, it came off, which we both kind of joked about.

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