DONT HAVE AN AFFAIR

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Registered: 04-05-2004
DONT HAVE AN AFFAIR
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:31pm
Hi Everyone,

This is for the ones that are thinking about having an affair. Run away fast !! It is the worst thing for your life!! I dont know how I got involved in mine and now I wish I didn't. I am trying very hard to get out and I have only been out for 9 days. I have a H and 3 children who I love more than anything. I would do anything to go back to when he asked me out to say no. The A changed EVERYTHING in my life. I hate myself for what I have done. I just hope I can keep the A ended. We work together so it is hard. Believe me dont do it.

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 4:15pm
I hate him right now girl!! He called me a fatso! I hate it when he does it. I am a little over weight but deosn't have to call me fat. I still can fit in my size 12 clothes. Its not like I am obese.... GRRRRRR
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Registered: 03-30-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 4:24pm
okay, my mouth is hanging open!! what a dickhead!!!!! that is so passive-aggressive behavior. OM needs to apologize and NEVER, EVER say that again, even in jest!!!!!!!!! or he'll never get another BJ from you! i don't have enough !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! here for his behavior. and my mouth is still open girl.

you better jack him up over this and fast. or i'll have to come over there and deal with it.

life

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 4:29pm
He will never apologize girl. He has done it many times before. he has never spologized life. This time was last straw. Makes me feel like a fool for posting that post in the morning...
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 4:42pm
why not, does apologizing make him feel like he's less of a man? is it better to hurt your feelings, the one he supposely loves?! sorry juliet, but i don't like that man! he needs your cold shoulder.....

and btw, don't feel stupid for posting your good feelings this morning. everyone gets hurt in Rs, but if he's doing this over and over, he's intentionally pushes your buttons and that's NOT a nice thing ever. you can love someone and still be pissed off.

life

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 4:46pm
Thanks for your support life!! I really need it now. You really helped honey!
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-14-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 5:02pm
Juliet,

Please tell this man off. He does not deserve your time or affection. I've told you many times you deserve better than this. Find someone who appreciates you. You are a tremendous person and you shouldn't accept this kind of treatment. Be strong.

Omaha

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Registered: 01-14-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 5:07pm
It is nice to see a lot of new faces on the board. And interesting that all of you are coming here to warn others not to have an A. As it turns out, I agree with you all. I certainly wouldn't judge anyone who is currently involved in an A. But if someone were to ask my advice before starting in one, I would tell them to stop while they still can. If there are problems in your current R, deal with them. If you're just bored, seriously take a look at yourself and what you want out of life. If you're sexually frustrated, talk to your H/W/BF/GF about it. If it can't be resolved, then you may need to consider whether you want to remain in that R for the rest of your life. None of these are easy things to face and it often seems easier to seek affection or attention elsewhere. But trust me, it is not easier. It makes everything more difficult and complicated.

I know that I will never have another A. I'm not cut out for it and I now know that what I was seeking was a R that was fulfilling for me and a connection that was lacking in my M. Never again will I let myself fall in the trap of running away from problems. They only get worse and when I had to face them, it was almost overwhelming. I'm on the right path now and I hope each of you can find your own path to happiness.

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 6:07pm
I agree omaha. I deserve more than what he is dishing out. We are definitely off for now. I am going back to H - and I will do whatever it takes to get back home. I have had enough. I am going to say good bye to all this anytime now. Thanks for your support.

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