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| Fri, 11-21-2008 - 6:34pm |
So, I am new to this whole A thing. I really can't even believe it happened! I am MW, met MM through work. We live in different states but have some of the same friends in the company. He got my #, began texting after a meeting. It was just friendly, work-related stuff at first, every other week or so. Then more often, etc etc. I was attracted to him immediately upon meeting him and later found out same on his end. We gradually began texting more and more- almost every day- always initiated by him.
It became sexual and attraction was revealed. We had another work meeting and sealed the deal. I could not help myself- everything about this man draws me to him. EVERYTHING. Seriously- the most irresistible man I've ever met. While he doesn't admit to another A, he has slept with someone else other than wife (once he says) and claims a woman kissed him at a bar while he was on a "guy's weekend." I don't think he's been married more than 5 years. He's not even calling this an A, says we are friends who.... So, we had a the meeting, had some good times. The last night he comes to me and says we're not going to have sex that night b/c it's not all about sex and he respects me, blah blah. I was floored and a bit disappointed (in the no sex part) He started calling - before this it was really only texting. This went on a few weeks after the meeting. Now, we're back to just texting a day or two a week and I let him initiate always.
We've talked about doing it again whenever possible. The next meeting is months away though, there is possibility of some other things in between now and then. I just don't know what I am doing. I don't know if it's ok to suggest just a meeting between us with no work involved- if he would go for it, how we would plan it, etc. He said it's worth the wait when I said we won't see each other for months.
I love my H and we weren't having any problems. Now, I am only a bit sexually unsatisfied b/c of things that my AP will do that H won't and the fact that AP is the best lover I have ever had- used to be H. I'm frustrated when I don't hear from AP and happy when I do. This is so confusing? Anyone relate??
It became sexual and attraction was revealed. We had another work meeting and sealed the deal. I could not help myself- everything about this man draws me to him. EVERYTHING. Seriously- the most irresistible man I've ever met. While he doesn't admit to another A, he has slept with someone else other than wife (once he says) and claims a woman kissed him at a bar while he was on a "guy's weekend." I don't think he's been married more than 5 years. He's not even calling this an A, says we are friends who.... So, we had a the meeting, had some good times. The last night he comes to me and says we're not going to have sex that night b/c it's not all about sex and he respects me, blah blah. I was floored and a bit disappointed (in the no sex part) He started calling - before this it was really only texting. This went on a few weeks after the meeting. Now, we're back to just texting a day or two a week and I let him initiate always.
We've talked about doing it again whenever possible. The next meeting is months away though, there is possibility of some other things in between now and then. I just don't know what I am doing. I don't know if it's ok to suggest just a meeting between us with no work involved- if he would go for it, how we would plan it, etc. He said it's worth the wait when I said we won't see each other for months.
I love my H and we weren't having any problems. Now, I am only a bit sexually unsatisfied b/c of things that my AP will do that H won't and the fact that AP is the best lover I have ever had- used to be H. I'm frustrated when I don't hear from AP and happy when I do. This is so confusing? Anyone relate??

I can relate- just getting back into pre-baby body and loving all the attention and feeling attractive. This guy though... totally my brand of heroin, if that makes sense. Like now that I know what it's like to be with him, if we're in the same place again I won't be able to resist. And he doesn't make it easy to stop thinking about him by texting every day or so. I am pretty certain he knows how to play this game. But even knowing that, I'd still fall for it. Ugh. Worst of all- I know this will inevitable go nowhere. Neither one of us will never live near the other and neither wants to leave their spouse or children. Well I don't- I'm fairly certain he doesn't. Double UGH.
Well, new developments are a bet we made involving two sporting events and I am wondering now if he is going to ask me to meet him somewhere in the next month or two. He's been very attentive lately and when I sent a text asking if this was as good as a shake on our bet, he said it was more like a binding contract. I thought that was good. I really had no clue as to how to proceed. We were supposed to see each other the past week but the reason for that on my end fell thru, so we were not able to. I don't want to wait like 5 months of just texting and talking on the phone.
It's so hard to not be able to talk about this with anyone but anonymously on here. One friend of mine found out by accident but we don't talk a whole lot about it. I wonder if it makes her uncomfortable....