Don't know what to do!!!
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Don't know what to do!!!
| Fri, 06-25-2010 - 4:06pm |
Hi I have been married for almost 9 months. About almost 3 months ago I ended up falling for my brother-in-law. My feelings are really serious If I could I would leave my husband for his brother. His brother has made it clear to me that he too has feelings for me, but that we could never be together because I am his brothers wife. So I am a complete mess. my husband works nights so I spend a lot of time cuddling my brother in law. I truly love his brother and want to be with him. He makes me feel so wonderful when I am with him. I don't know how to end my feelings for him. I know it would help if I stopped cuddling him but I can't stop. I want to be with him so very badly. So how do you just forget about someone? I can't ask him to move out we can't pay our rent without his help. Also he has nowhere to go. Thank you Kaylee

Hi Kaylee,
Wow your husbands brother. I would very much stay clear from this one. Before you married H did you have these feelings for your brother-in-law? If you positively know in your heart of hearts that you no longer love your H then I would think ending the M would be best before more time is invested. Your in an emotional affair right now and its dangerously going to lead into something physical if you continue cuddling with him. If H were to find out he would be devasted, especially that being his brother.
I know its easier said then done but if at all possible try to have as little contact with im as you possibly can. This will not turn out good at all.
Wishing you the best of luck in handling and over coming this situation.
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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Oh wow, this is a mess for all concerned, isn't it? I do feel for you, you're in such a tough spot.
But. they're brothers. You can't leave for him, he's right!! Usually, if your son's wife (I'm playing the part of their parents here) leaves for another guy, you all as a family hate the other guy - that's just how it goes. BUT it's your other son! Who do you hate? THE WOMAN, of course. Talk about hate. Those in-laws of yours may not let you step foot into their presence ever again. Your AP would lose the respect of his family, and even if his parents still loved him, they'd be pretty disgusted with him. As long as you were with him - you being the ultimate evil comparable to the devil in their eyes - he might not even be welcome in their house.
OK, honestly, I'm one who always thinks things through to the "worst possible outcome", but that's what I see for the two of you if there were to be discovery. And it isn't you who would bear the brunt of it - it's your AP. He'd be risking losing his entire family, and the love of his brother.
I DO feel for you sweetie. I know it's hard. But you HAVE to either let this guy go or leave your marriage - and NOT for your AP, but for yourself. You can't end up with your AP no matter what. He's your H's brother, that's a big deal.
(((hugs))) - I hope you have the strength to do what you know you have to do here.
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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You've
ok so 6 months after you married your husband you fell for his brother ? I think before wondering weather you can be with your husband's brother or not , you need to leave your husband .
Because if you dont love your husband but still stay with him , you will keep falling for some one else if not his brother it could be someone else .
Best of luck