Don't know what to do about SM

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Don't know what to do about SM
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Thu, 01-22-2004 - 12:18pm
I'm new here so please bear with me. I've been in an A with a SM for about 8 months. I'm married and don't see myself leaving my h anytime soon. I do love h. I don't know why I started the A but it did.

The problem I have is that I don't know what to do, SM just started going out with a girl and I want to let him have his thing with her but he says he still wants to see me too. I have no problems with that but then he gets paranoid when we see each other.

Should I just tell him to forget about me (even though I really don't want to) I don't have a problem with not having the A with him, I just don't want to loose him from my life completely.

Can someone give me any suggestions.

Thanks

Niki

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 12:42pm

hi niki belle and welcome to the board!


why is SM acting paranoid -- because of your H or his GF??

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 12:56pm
He's acting paranoid about his GF. I told him that he should devote himself to his GF. I do try and have NC with him but it ain't as easy as you say it is. Especially when he tells me the things he wants to do to me next time we see each other.

Thanks for the advice.

Niki

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 1:08pm

niki -- i'm totally with you on the "not easy" part, girl!

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 1:25pm
If he wants to work on his relationship with his new g/f, you must respect his wishes and leave him alone. I can see why he is paranoid about all this while adjusting to his new relationship with the gf. I would let go in a heartbeat if my OM was in such a situation even though it wouldn't be easy. Anyway, good luck in whatever you decide.