Don't know what to think...

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2010
Don't know what to think...
4
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 11:15pm

Just checking in I guess, I haven't posted in a couple of weeks.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2008
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 7:32am

Sweetie, you've got to receive the message that's been sent. Some AP take the sneak coward way out (they are cheaters after all, not much honor there) and just vaporize on you. I don't know if yours was EA or PA but often this happens after the sex starts ... they get theirs and move on. Does this make me fell used, hell yes. But that's life in A-land sometimes. If you keep on pining for him you just hurt yourself worse ... be strong and take care.

-jana

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2010
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 11:24am
As hard as this probably is for you to hear, although you've got to suspect it, I agree with janamich67. Some men are cowardly like that and fearful of a confrontation...even over the phone. He just can't bring him self to tell you b/c he doesn't want to deal with your upset emotions. I'm so sorry...(HUGS)
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-01-2007
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 12:04pm

new2a1,

I'm sorry to burst your bubble here, but from a man's perspective, I think he has "vaporized," so to speak. In some of the purely PAs I have had, I will admit to having done this ... the OW never attempted contact either, so I assume it was mutual. I have also had OWs in PAs simply refuse my texts and emails, too. Fortunately, these As were purely physical and the pain, if there was any, was minimal.

I do sympathize, however, because it sounds to me like you're at least somewhat emotionally attached to this guy. I'm in an EA right now and would definitely feel devastated if the same thing happened to me. But, the reality is, he is most likely no longer interested. My advice would be to give him one more call or email saying you're gone if he doesn't respond. And if he doesn't, then go.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2010
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 4:35pm

Thanksfor your input, I can see where people, myself included would be inclined to think he doesn't want this anymore, but