don't know what's going on in mm's head!
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| Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:09am |
He almost started crying, cuz he never hit a deer before. and felt really bad and heartbroken he said. I was soo shocked of his reaction, cuz of the type of person he is.. anyway, I texted him fri. and told him I hope he's doing better today, but I got no response.
Yesterday, I texted him and couldn't wait to see him again and told him what I wanted to do to him!! I got no response.. which isn't unusual, but all these thoughts come to mind. Maybe he feels guilty he was with me and he can't see me anymore.. Or he felt guilty and told his wife everything. augh!!!! Wed. and/or Thurs's I usually hear from him to get together, so we'll see what happens today if he calls..
Hopefully I'll get a good answer and he's ok and doesn't feel guilty!!
Thanks for reading..
Chrissluver

I personally dont think that hitting that deer was the reason behind his emotional breakdown. I mean, of course he must be feeling terrible about it! But still I think it's associated with something else. It was just an opportunity for him to vent and let his emotions be. Maybe you're right, maybe he is starting to feel guilty about your A. Maybe it's the pressures about work, Marriage and A??? And that no reply issue is also another indication. It's Wedneday today, so I assume if he doesnt call you up till tomorrow night, there are some things you should be discussing. Good luck, darling.
If this is happening with your mm, you need to let him work through it
dd
LAST june when I tried to end things because I was stressed cuz I couldn't concentrate on my marriage, he didn't care, he still wanted to get together. We've been in this A for almost a year and half now. you would think that we would be comfortable enough to talk about things like this. Maybe it isn't anything at all and I'm jumping to conclusions. Who knows. Hopefully and maybe he'll call today for our rendevous!(sp)!
I"ll let you know what happens..
Thanks for listening.. Chrissluver
I hope he does call you today. If I were in your shoes I would back off a little. I know it is almost impossible to do but I feel you do more harm than good if you keep trying to contact him. I know where there were situations in my relationship that I sensed something wrong and instead of calling I decided to give him space and let the chips fall where they may. I didn't see the point in contacting him where he might misunderstand it as "Badgering" him for an answer. If you have been together that long and he is a good guy he will contact you. It seems you have done your part this week, let him do his.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
dd
I won't contact him anymore till he calls me. It will be hard, but you're right it'll seem like I'm badgering him. I can wait, but I hate waiting for answers. lol
I just hope it's not what I think. I always wondered if and when they decide to have a baby what's gonna happen with us. They were only married for 4 mo. and we stared our A, so maybe he's been stressed about that too!!! who the hell knows.. wish he would talk to me, but we kinda don't have that kind of relationship where we talk about personal things. Our A is only sexual.. but still we meet 1-2 a week, so stuff like this is important. and we have to drive back to my car, so we do talk about the little things in life, like work and people we know..
have a nice day, and I'll give an update later.. hopefully good news..