Don't want it to be over.....
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| Thu, 04-23-2009 - 10:29am |
MM and I had just a little thing going; nothing real serious; no “I luv you’s”, we haven’t even gone all the way (everything but), from the get go he was on & off; saying he already really likes me and it will only get complicated if we continue……this happened almost every time after being intimate…..finally I agreed and sent an email (we work together) he said good, then he did it ALL over again, geese, and he said he can call me as many times and I can email as many times saying it is over but this won’t just go away……okay, then a week later I called him a jerk for how he was acting and again he said it had to end because of what he’s already stated (it will get more complicated). He is very unhappy at home but stays for the same reasons most of us stay; kids, comfort, financial reasons, just easier.

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Is this over, I don’t want it to be.
Oh gosh this can go on forever!
Thank you for taking the time to read and reply.....appreciate it.
I said this same exact thing to my girlfriend yesterday; that I feel as if he keeps me on a string, at arms distance, and pulls me closer when he feels it.
I dont' want it to be over because it can be exciting then again I totally see why it would be best that it IS over, I go back and forth on those particular feelings.
Do you think that is what he is doing? The yo-yo affect? Do you think it makes a man want it more when he hasn't gone all the way with his "AP" This is what a girlfreind of mine said to me...that he will come back around, eventually, it could be a month later, but he will.
part of me wants that and a part of me wishes I didn't give a RA! (so frustrated).
>>>"that I feel as if he keeps me on a string, at arms distance, and pulls me closer when he feels it."<<<
That's he's way of putting you in your place. On the side.....no right to demand anything. Just a booty call when the urge hit him.
My question to you is: Why are you letting yourself be treated so low?
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
lol, I read a lot of your posts and you crack me up - you are very harsh but speak the truth a lot - you sound a lot like my girlfriend.
I agree, I'm a peice of a** to him (even though he tells me I'm not just a piece of meat) I know I am and why do I subject myself to such treatment, maybe I am weak in this area. I read somones post on here asking one - "do the good times outweigh the bad times" and in my situation, the bad times happened much more then the good, and I know I'm better then this but that rush of excitement is so addicting.
I do appreciate your input - keep it up, sometimes we need a little slap in the face or should I say a "reality check".
You do have a point, I have definitely heard that, I guess I wonder if applies to me since he "ended it" AGAIN two weeks ago tomorrow.....then again he was doing some of his playful banter last Friday and "checking me out" too.
See he has had one affair before, a long while ago he said and he said they were on and off for a long time - sounds like a pattern doesn't it?
Thank you for your input. If you have any suggestions on how to get to him, let me know! Part of me wants to just tell him here in a couple weeks that I can't get him out of my mind! lol.
He "ends it", but then he's "checking you out". He's already had one office affair that you are AWARE of. I'm sure everyone else is aware of it too....and what's going on between the two of you.
This guy is a player. He wants sex from you. Go with what your gut is telling you regarding what he wants.
"if you have any suggestions on how to get to him, let me know!" All I can ask is WHY would you want him???? Sounds like a real creep to me. You don't deserve to be treated the way he is treating you; stop allowing it.
Take care of yourself.
I know what you say is true. I don't know WHY I allow it? I've actually done real well the last couple weeks as far as staying to myself, not communicating with him unless it is work related, but for some reason yesterday I began "missing" those fun times....
thank you for your words of encouragement.
Its not over till you WANT it to be over.But seriously,you are in the thick of it.A's can last a lifetime but they have a strong foundation to stand the test of time.how long has yours been on?Are you S or M? Are you wanting to be with your AP in a normal,real life R?
" I don't know WHY I allow it?" How can we know when you yourself dont know,lol! You are your best answer.
Are you wanting a LTA?
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