Don't want it to be over.....
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| Thu, 04-23-2009 - 10:29am |
MM and I had just a little thing going; nothing real serious; no “I luv you’s”, we haven’t even gone all the way (everything but), from the get go he was on & off; saying he already really likes me and it will only get complicated if we continue……this happened almost every time after being intimate…..finally I agreed and sent an email (we work together) he said good, then he did it ALL over again, geese, and he said he can call me as many times and I can email as many times saying it is over but this won’t just go away……okay, then a week later I called him a jerk for how he was acting and again he said it had to end because of what he’s already stated (it will get more complicated). He is very unhappy at home but stays for the same reasons most of us stay; kids, comfort, financial reasons, just easier.

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I've only been in this A for a couple months....not very long, we had flirted back and forth for about 6 months before anything ever happened.
We've messed around, he has "taken care of me" plenty but we've never gone all the way...we've talked abuot getting a hotel room, he said if I get it he will be there in two seconds, we had that conversatino many times but I never did, last time we were intimate I sent him an email saying how it was best we ended it due to the fact we already had feelings involved, I went to his office later that day and he immediately grabbed me and kissed me and such......and this was RIGHT AFTER my saying what I said and after his telling me his wife almost left him earlier that week!!!!! That same day is when he said I can send as many emails and he can make as many phone calls to me saying it's "over" but this won't just go away....
I don't want to leave my spouse and he doesn't either, but I just want some fun out of it, nothing serious and HE was the one that kept throwing the fact up that it will get addictive and he can't do this w/out feelings .....why couldn't he have just left all that alone?
My question is this really - will he be back for another round??
If YOU get the room?????
Listen, if all you want is a "friend with benefits", I think you can do a lot better than this guy. Jerk.
He wants YOU to get the room?????? Incredible.
lol, I do too. I mean we are very attracted to each other, he is amazing in every area ...so far...but he IS a jerk....honestly, this is what I want to do -
I want to "get to him" basically turn the tables around - reel his butt in and then throw him back out on the line...I want him to come after me again (like he always use to) but this time TURN HIM AWAY....that is what I want, I finally figured it out.
Any ideas on how to get to him good - what is the trick for these guys....dressing sexy yeah, but it goes a bit deeper then that, what do you think?! He comes back Monday - I have not seen him all week...
>>>"I want him to come after me again (like he always use to) but this time TURN HIM AWAY."<<<
"Forgeddaboutit" Most likely you'll be the one who'll get more hooked than you already are.... And if he turns you away and not fall for your tricks, you'll be more hurt and obsess than you are now.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
push/pull ( or the yo-yo effect) increases the sexual tension and the intense emotional feelings plus,a strong addiction.And reading your posts indicates that the guy is successful in doing so.
Read the EAS for finding ways to put a stop to this A.I am confused now, the title of your post is ' dont want it to be over' and here you are wanting to TURN HIM AWAY?? The more you play head games,more addiction,more difficult to let go -- vicious circle.
Think really hard before you do anything as i feel that you are deep in it.
I know, I am such a basket case aren't I? I don't want this then on one hand I do, but if I am really honest with myself I do just want to get to him then not give in - prolly not real possible is it??
So bottom line is that I am already deep in it, he does the "yo-yo effect" on purpose because it intensifies feelings/emotions and he won't end this, it will have to be me? This could go on for ever in other words?
Do you think it makes him want "it"/me more for the sole fact we haven't gone all the way? He's just had a "taste" and that is it?
I am not saying that your AP is doing so on purpose.It could be that he himself is going up/down.But the point now is that its YOU who is aware of what this leads to and he probably is not.You may ( can and are ?? )use it to your advantage ( to keep the A going).Your AP may very well be the 'innocent' participant,so to say.
Yeah,an A can go on forever.
"if I am really honest with myself I do just want to get to him then not give in - prolly not real possible is it??" What will you get by doing this , if possible? Head games ,in which he may/may not get caught up.
What is it do you want? Decide on that and then work towards it.
Take care.
You are so right. He is NOT worth my time, energy, brain cells, breath, or a hair off my head....guh....it just SUCKS having to see him at work, especially when he looks so good. Saw him the first time today in 9 days......the attraction is what is so "heavy".
So I suppose what I need support on in this is to just get through seeing him/wanting him because on certain days
Girl, you are in T.R.O.U.B.LE. ! Big time.
Are you guys back? I am sure he can see what he does to you ;), can you see what you do to him,lol!
Keep posting;)
(( hugs ))
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