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| Fri, 03-05-2004 - 9:57am |
Quick background - we have been having an A for a few months. We are both teachers in the same building and spend too much together at work. Neither of us plans on leaving our spouses, for the most part we are just having a good time. We do care about each other (we started out as friends), but we are not in love with each other or any of that. (Although I do feel myself falling for him which is freaky). Anyway, we see each other every day at work, and call or see each other every afternoon before going home. We also email - or I should say I send him long messages and he replies when he can (his grown son lives at home and is always on the computer).
We were together on Wednesday (played hooky from work) and yesterday I ended up going home sick. I saw him briefly in the morning before I left and asked him to call me later on since I would be home alone (he is waiting to hear about another job and I am dying to know if he got it). Well, the day went by with no phone call. I know he is really busy at work, but still ... just a quick minute to say "Hi - how are you feeling?". Then no email all day. (I sent him 2)... Still none this morning ...
So now I feel like playing the old "Let's ignore him and see when he notices" game. I usually go see him in the morning, or at the latest I stop to see him on my way back from a class before lunch, then end up having lunch with him. I'm so tempted to not stop in to see him today and see if he comes to see me or calls me. But that's pretty childish, isn't it?!
HELP! I don't wanna' play games, but I also don't want to feel like I'm stalking this man! :)

hi dazednconfused -- honey, if you don't want to play the "game" then don't.
CL-Gurlfriend50
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Anyway, he'll come around - I'd wait, but that's me. I do that with OM and he usually comes around within a few hours - we work together too. I try to wait until he contacts me in the mornings and he usually does by 9:30 or so...and I told him that I get annoyed that he doesn't reply to my emails so I have pretty much stopped sending them.
Hang in there and let us know what happens...
I've expressed my concern to him...how it makes me feel...how worried I get. He has promised to get word to me somehow. He doesn't like making me worry.
It's been 3 years and I still email MW 3+ times a day. We talk everyday, except on sunday, We see each other at least 2 times a week!!
She is the one who does not seem to have time for me. Many of my emails go unanswered, but I know she is busy at work, she makes it up at night, or she'll call and say that she'll get back to me, she is just busy now!
She dropped off a fresh baked cake at my office this morning, for no reeason at all, just that she was thinking about me last night and knew I like this cake! WOW what a woman!!
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
I only dream how wonderful it would be to come home to her everyday!!
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
And I hope things work out for you in your situation, darlin.
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board