Dont'cha just hate
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Dont'cha just hate
| Fri, 02-06-2004 - 9:50pm |
when your plans go awry? I am fortunate in that SO and I get a LOT of time together and I am aware that we are luckier than most. But usually it's during a time when we have to watch the clock and be back to work by a certain time. Fridays are OUR day. I am off. He doesn't have late duty. So he's able to be at my place after work for a good couple of hours. Except today. He had an emergency at work and had to work late and wasn't able to come by at all. I know the nature of our work and of course I understand and it's not like this is an ongoing problem. In fact this is the first time that's happened, I think. But it bummed me out nonetheless and ruined my day. I hate this.
Lucky

My SO doesn't live with me, but yes, if stb-x did want to snoop, he would find that OM comes over 4 or 5 days a week. But I don't have an antagonistic relationship with stbx, first of all. Secondly, with the approach we're taking to the divorce, it's agreed that it will be a cooperative endeavor with no spying, litigating, etc. Also, the times when SO comes over is about 6am for about an hour most days. Ex has custody of the kids, so he's getting them ready for school most of those days. On Fridays and the occasional Mon or Wed, he'll come over about 930am when we/he gets off work. That is our riskiest time because it's daylight and ex doesn't work, so, in theory, he could 'pop by' and find us out. But he never comes over unannounced, nor do I. We have respected each other's privacy. Also, I live in an apartment complex and SO rarely parks right in front of my building. He usually parks a few buildings over for our daylight visits. If ex were to come by then, it's easy enough to just keep SO in the bedroom while I get rid of ex. Ex, again, respects my privacy and never ventures further than the dining room unless the kids take them to their rooms to show him something.
So, to answer your question, yes, it is a risk. But I don't think a very great one. We're fairly far in the process of negotiating the agreement - he's proofing the latest rewrite now - and so the divorce should be final at the end of March.
Lucky
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