a drunk encounter,I want more- now what?

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Registered: 05-26-2009
a drunk encounter,I want more- now what?
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Sun, 08-16-2009 - 7:03pm

So 2 years ago I started a new job that had me working very closely with a guy. Both of us are married and we had sons the same age, and there was a lot to talk about. Conversation was good, we are very similar, and he was cute too. I quickly developed my first crush on someone since I have been married. Found out 6 months later he was being transferred. In order to stay in contact we started hanging out- him, his w, my h, me, and the 2 kids. Over the next 6 months we all became good friends. Then I found out I was being transferred to his site too. I was so happy. Even though we are all friends, I have always felt my crush was more important than the friendship with his w I made in order to be around him.

So for the next year, we worked very closely together. Ate lunch the 2 of us every day. Sometimes I felt like there was an energy, but nothing was ever acted on... Although I really wanted it to happen. It was in that year that I felt as though I was falling in love with him- big time.

So I got transferred again last month and we are again at separate sites. He called me the end of the first week and told me he missed my smiling face. Aw. So here's my question for you...

Last night him, his w, me and my h were hanging out and got very drunk.the whole night he sat next to me with my h on the other side of me. His leg was touching mine the whole time. If I moved it, he would move his too. He suggested we all go in the hot tub and that we didn't need suits!so We ended up in the hot tub naked-the 4 of us. Just talking and hanging out... Again we were pretty drunk. BUT the entire time we were in there, since the bubbles were on and you couldn't see below the water, he was rubbing my feet and my legs. His foot even found its way up my inner thigh a few times. I caught him staring at my chest, and giving me the look. Even when his w would kiss him, hed be touchin my leg. So, it made me happy because its the FIRST physical contact more than a friendly hug.

BUT how do I know if he did it because he was drunk, and only because he was drunk? Does he even remember it? How do I find out if he does, and get us into a situation for more? I have to be careful, because although we don't work together we still see each other at functions.

So please help me! What do I say or do? I want more to happen! Ugh- stupid alcohol!

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Registered: 06-18-2009
Mon, 08-17-2009 - 2:58pm
Nothing you can say or do. I'm sure he'll let you know if he wants what you want. If he doesn't make a move soon then it's probably just alcohol.
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Registered: 12-18-2008
Tue, 08-18-2009 - 7:13am

If you want him, I wouldn't want for him to make a move. Could be he's having same thoughts as you and waiting for a sign from you. You could text him something like, I liked your touch on my thigh, or something. Let the games begin!

-jana