Duh!

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Registered: 04-28-2011
Duh!
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Tue, 05-07-2013 - 9:07pm

I finally realized that AP is conflicted. Someone on here told me he was but duh! I think it just set in. We still talk everyday but can I really call him AP because technically we are not together officially. He sat me down about a month ago and told me that there were 3 things he wanted to get together in his life before he wanted a relationship. One of them he completed this week. Should I hope at all, that he may have actually been serious? I would be with him but I don't want to push him and I want him to tell me he is ready. I told him about 6 months ago that I wanted a RL relationship and I didn't want to share. I really laid it on the line with him in a moment of bravery. I thought that it would make him run away from me. A few weeks after that I told him I thought that me telling him that would make him run. He told me that if I wanted him to leave me I needed to try harder than that. SO....should I think he may really follow through or just be satisfied that we have a good friendship??

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Registered: 09-21-2007
In reply to: cocomama21
Wed, 05-08-2013 - 1:29pm

I guess only time will tell if he was serious or not.  Should you get your hopes up?  I would say no.  Support his decisions and take care of you.  Tall order, but it doesn't help to sit and wonder about what he will or will not do.  I know, this is the pot calling the kettle black.  lol  I have had to learn to move on with everyday life and try to enjoy the days as best I can, and if AP is there one of those days, cool.  If not, then my day does go on.

Do you want to "just be satisfied"?  Do you also want to wait?  With my AP, I take everything with a grain of salt.  You know yours better than anyone else does.  After all this time, is his word true?

 

 

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Registered: 04-28-2011
In reply to: cocomama21
Mon, 05-13-2013 - 8:43pm

True, I do need to take care of myself which I am doing. But typically if he says he is going to do something. He is pretty true to his word (wierd, I know, considering) But I am not like waiting with baited breath or anything. I feel that I will find out soon enough one way or another. Usually he tells me what life moves he is planing to make so we do have some history on that. But I do think that he is conflicted in some ways. All I can really say is we'll see.