I am sorry you are going through all this. I too remember your threads and I'm sure you can understand why H doesn't feel he can trust you on this either. If you want your M to work you will have to be honest with H at least from now on and let him take whatever steps he needs to trust you again. Are you in counselling? I think you and H should go. At least you should consider going, especially after something as traumatising as this.
I too urgre you to get to a counselor of some sort. Now I know for me I too had convinced myself that I really loved my H, and we were going to work it out. I know for me it had a lot to do with guilt that I felt. Bu tthe bottom line was my M was too broken to repair, that and I realized after a time, I was not in love with H and nothing had changed. What was changing was me, I was not able to be myself. I am not saying that is what you and your H is doing but I just wanted to put that out there.
(((HUGS))) and I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. I, too, strongly encourage you to seek some sort of counseling in real life to help you come to terms with everything that's happened and to help you work things out in your life from here on out, whether with or without your husband. If you don't know of anyone you can talk to, http://www.befrienders.org/helplines
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I am honestly very sorry for the loss of your friend.
However, to the other issue.
I know you must be very nervous right now.
I am sorry you are going through all this. I too remember your threads and I'm sure you can understand why H doesn't feel he can trust you on this either. If you want your M to work you will have to be honest with H at least from now on and let him take whatever steps he needs to trust you again. Are you in counselling? I think you and H should go. At least you should consider going, especially after something as traumatising as this.
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Edited 12/6/2008 7:03 pm ET by lacey72
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Oh my dear, I am sorry that this happened.
I too urgre you to get to a counselor of some sort. Now I know for me I too had convinced myself that I really loved my H, and we were going to work it out. I know for me it had a lot to do with guilt that I felt. Bu tthe bottom line was my M was too broken to repair, that and I realized after a time, I was not in love with H and nothing had changed. What was changing was me, I was not able to be myself. I am not saying that is what you and your H is doing but I just wanted to put that out there.
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