EAP Wants to Visit Me! Confused!
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EAP Wants to Visit Me! Confused!
| Mon, 01-12-2009 - 7:35pm |
I posted before that I'm in an EA with a friend's STBX. We were trying to keep everything above board until he leaves his SO, so that if we do try

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Hi!
This may be easier said than done, but it sure would make for a better "love story" for the two of you if you waited until his X is truly and X.
I just wanted to add (as I've been thinking about what I wrote)....
The only reason AP and I can't have a love story is the 2 D-Days we've had with his W.
The only reason he would come is to see me. He is not from here and I am his only friend here, so he really has no other reason to be in this city. Also, like I mentioned, he never comes with her here-- ever. But if he comes when she is here, it doesn't raise any red flags. If he were to just come here on his own, she would basically know why.
Good questions!
I'm sorry - I still don't get it.
She knows that he wants out, but I think she's hoping that he'll change his mind at some point.
As for the other comment, I don't think it's any more "twisted" or "horrible" for him to want to come somewhere to see me than people who go with their AP's to their AP's house that they share with their SO/W/H... or sneaking away from a family dinner to call AP, or lying to SO/W/H about where one is going to spend time with AP. In a way, at least he wouldn't be lying about anything, where he is or who he is with. She'll be doing her own thing and he'll be doing his own thing and they aren't even planning on staying together.
Could it be
I think your defensiveness says a lot.
I get that you two have some kind of connection you wish to explore - fine.
I don't have a problem with your opinion, but I do think it's fair to say I wasn't asking for judgment on whether it was wrong. I agree it's wrong... everything about A's are wrong by nature. I don't want you to feel like you can't post, but really I was looking for help sorting out my own feelings and not for a judgment on whether it's wrong. It is. I've said that myself and to myself
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