EMA or Rape? I think it was

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Registered: 10-05-2003
EMA or Rape? I think it was
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Mon, 11-03-2003 - 12:58pm
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Edited 11/5/2003 4:54:50 PM ET by mimble
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-03-2003 - 1:14pm
jeez, mimble, i don't know what to say! sorry you were in the predicament with H and OM. but it's not like you planned the evening to turn out that way. and you say your H is always an angry man and if he's upset by you just grabbing the OM's arm, god knows what he would do if you told him the OM raped and robbed you!!

my first instinct would be to tell all and press charges against the OM! at the least, it would empower you and maybe prove to your H that you are telling the truth about the rape/robbery situation. but in your present situation, with an angry, ugly-mood H who obviously blames you for every little misstep, i would now opt for the "let's put it behind us" scenario. but you must not put yourself in this position again -- too much alcohol always leads to an opening for disaster, as you now can see.

this OM should NEVER be allowed back into your home! ever!! and watch how much you drink around others. have a few beers, but back off and drink soda or water, or sip the next beer if you can't not have a beer can in your hand. you should always be in control in a social setting. otherwise, bad things can happen!

be careful and take care of you,

gurl

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Registered: 10-23-2003
Mon, 11-03-2003 - 1:24pm
Mimble...I think you need to contact your local crisis center and talk to a professional about your situation. I wouldnt contact a rape center as Im concerned they would push you in a direction you may not wish to go with this matter. Either way it sounds to me like you are in danger and need to seek help immediately. I am not a professional nor do I profess to be but I certainly think you have some very important matters that should be discussed with someone who is better suited to assist you. Please remember that we are always here for your emotional support and we would like to help you in any way we can...please let us know what we can do to help you during this difficult time....

cl-liberalgirl

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Registered: 10-24-2003
Mon, 11-03-2003 - 1:30pm
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Yes, he raped you. When a woman says no and a man doesn't stop, it's rape - plain and simple. It sounds like this scum robbed you as well as raped you. Go to your doctor and have yourself tested for STD's and explain what happened to her/him. I can bravely sit here and tell you to go to the police, but only you know if that's best for you. I would warn other women about him; you don't have to go into detail, but they should know that this animal is out there.

Good luck hon.