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to email or not to email.....
| Sat, 05-29-2004 - 2:06pm |
So I have spent the last 3 days sending various emails to my OM, waiting for a reply back or a phone call, and have received nothing. I do not have his cell phone number, as he wants control of the situation. Personally, I feel he doesn't trust me. Unbeknownst to him, I have his home number, but would never call it, as I don't want him to get in any more trouble with his g/f, then I would want trouble with my H. Thing is, I've got the time and we have the means to meet for a rendezvous this weekend, which is very unusual for us and I figure, why pass up a good opportunity. But if I can't get a reply out of him, there can't be any rendezvous and it's really starting to piss me off. I'm ordinarily a calm, patient person, but I detest having to wait for someone to call me or email. What I really want to do is send him a really bitchy email asking what is going on, etc., but I also don't want to push him away with my aggressiveness. It's funny, in my M, I've always been the aggressive one, yet, in my A, I'm the passive one, and now it's starting to get to me. I just want an answer about a meeting, is that asking too much? So should I email him and ask what the hell? or just let it sit there and go about my daily activities? I have way too much free time on my hands, and so I am constantly thinking of him and ways we can meet. Any input would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!

Jen-
Boy, do you and I have this in common! I went through the same dilemma this week, especially yesterday. I was waiting for an email back from my MM to see if we were meeting for drinks yesterday. Well, I sent my email on Wed afternoon and at noon yesterday, still no response! Finally- A male-co-worker friend of mine ( who I trust implicitly) gave me a mental kick in the rear and said "hey- find your own destiny is this, regardless of what it may be- good or bad... Is this man worth torturng yourself over?" My friend also said " does this guy realize you are turning yourself inside out mooning and pining over him?" I said "no". Finally my friend said- "email. You have to... you need to know. You owe it to YOURSELF." So I did...
And the outcome was positive- we met and had a nice hour together.
Take a chance- it may not work out the way we want it to bit then we know instead of beating ourselves up inside and thinking negative thoughts.
Let me know how it turns out... thinking of you.
Hugs-
V .
If he typically pulls this move, maybe there is something more there going on with your relationship that you need to address. I would let some more time pass, long enough for him to miss this opportunity to be with you, then contact him for a deeper discussion.
Good luck and keep us posted.
Just my two cents, but if he can't get with the program and give you a simple answer to calls and emails, then I say kick him to the curb. Do you *really* want someone in your life who *might* get upset or pull away because you "dare" to expect a reply about a meeting?
Time to say, "Houston, prepare launch sequence."