Emotional Affair?

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Registered: 03-12-2012
Emotional Affair?
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Mon, 03-12-2012 - 8:50pm
I have ne'er gone through anything like this before. My husband and I were very solid until the kids came, and we have begun drifting since. Last spring, we welcomed out newest ( and last) addition, a baby girl). I went on maternity leave and took my son to preschool every morning. Our son was in the same class as another little boy we'll call Austin. Austin's daddy was a friend of mine in high school, but I really haven't spoken to him since then. He married and had two kids as well.
During my maternity leave, Bob (we'll call him) and I would run into each other when dropping off our kids. Then some interesting things started happening, like us meeting more often, him pretty much making excuses to run into me, etc. I was very flattered, and started feeling something for him (we had crushes on each other back in the day). When he came to the school one morning in his cop uniform and patrol car and made sure he ran into me, I knew something was up.
Summer came, and we transferred our son to a new preschool on my high school's campus (I'm a teacher). Unfortunately, it seemed like he was being babysat more than learning, so he moved back after Christmas. He was put in Bob's son's class, once again. And, once again, Bob and I run into each other. He parks by me every time, takes his time getting out of the truck to pass by me, etc. I do the same thing....and I am to the point now where I almost want to ask him to not do that anymore just to see what he says and if I'm just making more out of it than it is. I am scared though and don't know if it's the rigt thing to do at the risk of making myself look like an ass. I think about him all the time and just wish I knew what's going on from his point of view via the easy way.....
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Tue, 03-13-2012 - 8:21am
Do you want to ask him to stop, because you want it to end? Or because you want to know what he might be feeling? Think long and hard before you move this along in a direction that can't be stopped. If you have already decided where you want this to go and a fling is in your direction. Ask Bob to meet you for coffee, change the setting and then take the risk and put yourself out there. The worst that can happen, is he will turn you down and life goes on.
~Sunny~
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Tue, 03-13-2012 - 2:26pm
You both are giving off vibes of desire and attraction towards eachother. Because of close proximity , you might end up having a PA as well. Like its often said here on the board , if emotions are involved , sex will be mind blowing and after sex , you are going to get more bonded . Are you ready for the ride ?
If you can keep it EA , more power to you but those are harder to break off .
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Registered: 03-12-2012
Tue, 03-13-2012 - 6:41pm

I'm more just curious about what he's thinking. He and I are meeting at the same time to

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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 1:44pm
For most people on this board, its a first A , lol !

I guess let it unfold itself . If its mutual , it wont stay still and will make its own way ;)
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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 2:51pm
Hi Suthrnmommy, I know your curious as to what he's thinking but once you find out than what....Will it change anything? You come across as not wanting things to escalate so what good will it do. It seems like you have an attraction to him, a man in uniform doesn't help ;) so there is a chance that things can go further than you anticipate. It happened that way with me. I was curious and allowed myself to get into a whole heap of trouble. Just be careful & tread lightly....be careful what you wish for.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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AND - IF you approach him it is very likely he will jump.