emotional affair

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Registered: 02-21-2010
emotional affair
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Sun, 02-21-2010 - 11:49am
I need a female perspective on something. what is an emotional affair? or what are the signs of one?
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Registered: 08-21-2003
Sun, 02-21-2010 - 3:41pm
If you think you're in one, you probably are... ;)
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Registered: 12-29-2008
Sun, 02-21-2010 - 6:08pm

A emotional affair is when one is confiding in, spending more time with, and connecting on a deeper level more then they would with their Spouse.

The signs? You cant bare not to be with this person, you may think your *gasp* in love. Or the other person is in love with you. You get a high when your with them and it comes crashing down when your not.

Good luck to you if you are in a EA, your in for quite a ride.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 1:07pm

Scarlett's response is good. Just wanted to add that you can be in an emotional affair even if you never see the person (usually because they're far away). In this case, you're addicted to the e-mails or phone calls or instant messages, and if they stop coming as often, you feel bereft and sad. You may have never even met the person "in real life", but you can be convinced that you love them.

Another clue that this is an EA and not just a good friendship - secrecy. You do not tell your spouse about this person. Anything that's truly "friendship" can be discussed with your spouse. If you're sharing things with this person that you know your spouse or S/O (significant other) would feel hurt about - and you find yourself hiding the relationship from your S/O - sure sign of an EA. EVEN if you've never set eyes on the person for real, and certainly haven't shared anything physical, it is still an emotional affair.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 1:18pm

You may want to check on wikipedia

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_affair

They are Affairs of the heart !! and touch the bottom of your soul,of what you really are.The emotional intimacy is the intimacy which goes beyond anything and no one would trade that for anything in the world.
That said, they can be heart-reanching as one cant be really be there with the EAP the way they would want to.Sex is on the mind but is not acted upon which adds fuel to fire.

Are you married?Is your AP married?