Emotional RollerCoaster Ride!

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Registered: 01-24-2004
Emotional RollerCoaster Ride!
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Tue, 03-02-2004 - 1:22am
I've been having an A for about 4-5 months now. I'm sooo confused and feel like my feelings are on a rollercoaster ride! One week my OT will tell me he wants to be more than friends, then the next week he'll tell me he wants to be "just friends." This cycle is driving me crazy! On Friday, me and my OT got a hotel room and had an amazing night! On Monday morning, I received an email from OT stating he wants to be "Just Friends." I told him to really think about it and get back to me on how he truly feels (if he wants to be more than friends or just friends) because whatever his answer is, its the final answer. Am I right for making him give me a final answer? Any thoughts on why he can't seem to make up his mind? HELP! I'm sooo confused!
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 8:16am
Hi! Ok first of all who is married in this? Both or one? I think you were right in telling him to decide, that last thing you need is for him to change it everytime youre together. And if he says he wants to be friends, then youre gonna have to let it be. It may be hard, but maybe for alittle while have no contact with him. If he calls, talk casually, dont tell how much you miss him. And if you see him sometime and he says he was wrong, tell him you have moved on you need someone who knows what he wants. It may be hard, i know l have been there, but you have to strong otherwise you will fall back in and then youll go thru it again, also like i did!! Stand your ground and let him know that you are not a toy he can play with. I hope this helps you some. Just think about what he is doing and if you think you can handle the games he plays.


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Registered: 01-24-2004
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 10:01am
He is married and I am in the process of getting a divorce (nothing to do with OT.) Thanx-its comforting to know I am not overreacting. I still haven't gotten my final answer yet but I'm sure I will in the next day or two!