The "Emotional" vs. Sexual affair
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The "Emotional" vs. Sexual affair
| Sun, 04-18-2004 - 11:42pm |
I guess the more reading I do here, the more I realize the differenc between these two. For the past 4 years I was thinking that I was doing no harm by continuing this flirtatious tone with a co-worker (especially since he is on the other coast).
I think I am finding now that it may, in fact, be almost worse than having a physical, sexual affair. What is it exactly? Is it the idea or notion of sex that never happens, that plays on your mind day in and out? I am busting out -- wanting to get it off my chest and just tell him how attracted to him I am, and how I wonder if he feels the same way? And what we are going to do about it?
Damn, I kinda wish he had IM because it would be easier to brave with my words (LOL). He can't really ignore an IM, but he can ignore an email (ugh, horrors!)
I am interested to know, from those who's As started off on the emotional level, how long they stayed there until they went physical (when and if they did).
Thanks for listening -
R

Our relationship is strengthened by the fact that we were friends for so long - the complete level of trust is already there and we know what the other is feeling. I don't know how long it will last, but whilst it does it is a wonderful thing, and I can see it going on for a very long time.
Follow your heart - I wish I had been brave enough to say something to him 3 years ago, think of all that time I have wasted.
Vamp
a client of mine, we had never met, only e-mailed business
and business phone calls.
Then he came into my office one day, well, that is all it took
on both of our parts. I instantly fell in love, or it sure
felt like it. The passion we both had with just that first look
was incredible.
Since then, we have not yet went all the way, only petting.
We are both M, and have never strayed, me 18years, he 10years.
I guess we feel a little guilty, but cannot stop our passion
for each other. The emotional commitment is, at least with me,
more stressful than the physical. I am totatly consumed with
him nite and day. He is in my thoughts always. I canot shake it.
I have tried, but no good. I do play it cool with e-mails, not
to bother him much. I guess, I am thinking if I e-mail too
often, I will receive a bad reply, like " don't bother me today
or such".
So I keep it cool. Be cool, and confident, and I constantly tell
myself if it is meant to be, it will be.
Hope I have helped you,
Bunny