Emotionally attracted but not physically

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Emotionally attracted but not physically
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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 6:06pm
Anyone ever been just emotionally attracted to

OM but when it came to being physical you were

not? I love my OM but do not have the slightest

physical attraction to him.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 12-16-2003 - 6:33pm
YES!!! Not physically attracted to MW, but am emotionally and I don't know what to do! It's driving me nuts! Sorry this is no help, but I know exactly how you feel.
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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 6:42pm
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Edited 3/10/2004 5:03 pm ET ET by geek_chic
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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 6:47pm
The sex was not great and the kissing

was awful but I still cant seem to not

think of him?
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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 7:01pm
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Edited 3/10/2004 5:04 pm ET ET by geek_chic
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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 10:43pm
For my situation it's way more complicated than that. Since I can't write 8 pages of auto-biography right now, I will try to summarize. Have not had sex yet, I think she wants to. I do not want her to get the wrong read from this and end up hurting her. That's one reason why I have been lurking here. Gathering info, and from what I have seen, most of the women don't look at it as just sex and have an extremely difficult time of walking away from such encounters. As such, I'm not sure it is a good idea right now(ha - Look at me - I thinking with my big head!) The plain deal is I'm just not attracted and the "physics" are important as I have none of that right now and believe me it really really bites. Thats only a fraction of the story.
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Registered: 09-03-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 2:33pm
You know...they seem to go hand-in-hand for me. I can't enjoy kissing someone unless I have deep feelings for him; doesn't matter if he's good at the mechanics of it or not. Honestly, from what I remember from the few kisses MM and I shared, they weren't ALL THAT. I have had a couple of dreams where we were kissing and the kissing was absolutely atrocious. Don't you think that's my subconscious saying something? I told MM about the dreams and he said I was just baiting him, trying to get him to kiss me again. I said I wasn't, but in a way I'm curious to kiss again just to see if it WAS bad. I swear the first time we kissed he did something weird with his tongue. This quick flicking motion back and forth that kinda bothered me at the time. But the other times we've kissed have left me weak in the knees. I'm thinking maybe he was a bad kisser, but I've just fallen so deep for him now he could do ANYTHING and I'd be head over heels. When MM first started coming onto me, I couldn't for the life of me picture myself making love to him. I was actually NOT ATTRACTED to him. If you looked at me and looked at him, you'd tell me I could definitely do better and that's the God's-honest truth. I know it. MM doesn't seem to know it, or if he does he doesn't let on by the way he treats me! Because of all the attention MM was giving me, I spent several days picturing us making love and gradually, I began to feel attracted to him. Odd, isn't it? Why would I talk myself into such a thing? I guess I was attracted to the excitement, the attention... So why can't I go back to that point when I wasn't attracted to him? Please trust me on this, if you're not attracted now, you will eventually be, and that's where you start to lose control. Don't talk yourself into it if you're not feeling it. Just keep it at a friendship level...
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Wed, 12-17-2003 - 7:14pm
I would think it would be hard to be attracted to someone emotionally and not physically -- unless you were a hair spiltting critic from Cosmoplitan. But then who wants the superficial types from Cosmopolitan?? LOL.