emotionally tired

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Registered: 06-08-2010
emotionally tired
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Thu, 08-26-2010 - 6:25pm
I feel so emotionally tired. I miss AP. I miss more frequent texting, Facebook chat and messaging... August has been a difficult month for him, actually the whole summer was. His W was sick for a while and stayed home for a month, his kids were home from school as well. Because of that we were seeing each other less, texting less; everything was less. At first I welcomed this change. I thought I would have time to concentrate on myself, distance myself from him and learn to be less needy. I also tried to spend more time with my family. But to be honest, I realized that I miss him and want to be with him more often.
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Registered: 05-17-2003
Thu, 08-26-2010 - 7:26pm

Hi there findfreedom,


My contact with AP has dwindled somewhat too, so I know how you feel (it sounds like you're single, ru?).

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Registered: 02-06-2010
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 3:36am
u have got to find more stuff to do with yourself so u are not obsessing over this guy. if his kids are out from school, he is going to be busy busy busy. but also, maybe he just can not take how much u need to hear from him, and then contacting u is like a chore each day rather than something he wants to do. i have had to be very understanding with my As b/c i am a devoted mother, i do not want to be discovered and both of my APs were/are extremely professional, successful and well-educated with families... extended and immediate in the area and out of town. i, realistically, can not expect loads of attention to come my way and if you are from this guy, then he may not be the best match for you if he really can not give u what it is u think u need or want. otherwise, if it is just your insecurities speaking out, re-evaluate what u need and why. write it down in list form and see if he meets your needs. if not, yes - then end it as quickly as u can, tell him he can not meet your needs, i.e. u need more than he can give, etc... etc...
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Registered: 08-24-2010
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 8:20am
It must be in the air..maybe the full moon or something because I had this very conversation today with my AP about how little time we get any more.
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Registered: 06-08-2010
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 12:05pm

Hi Benska,


Thanks for the reply. No I am not S. I am a MW and have 2 kids. I've been with AP for almost 6 months and until this summer we used to get together twice a week. Just like you I used to get upset when he had to leave and felt even worse the next

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Registered: 06-08-2010
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 4:40pm
Hi Marie. Thanks for your reply. You are right: I do need to find more things to do to stay busy. One of my kids
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Registered: 01-12-2009
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 5:52pm

Hello ~


I don't think it's easy for anyone in our situations.