Ending and it is so hard

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Registered: 06-19-2009
Ending and it is so hard
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 10:53am

Hi All,


I've been posting on EAS lately but i felt like coming back here for a bit..


I ended my A of 2 years. I went NC last month and now i am in LC because xAP is back to work. This has turned out to be very very difficult. He is saying things like i have shattered his whole life by doing this, that he is willing to get a D for us to be together..i really don't know what to do. While i don't want to resume the A, i really don't like hurting him. I care deeply for him. Any suggestions...help...


This is really, really sad..


Sunshine

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2009
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 10:53am

Thanks - i hope he has stopped, too. Today he is totally ignoring me and i am fine with it. Yeah it hurts me but it's better this way.


I need a reminder..why is ending this A and causing pain to myself and xAP

Sunshine

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 10:56am
What were the reasons you decided to end it waiting? I don't remember them. Your H and your M are certainly two good ones. Start a list of them. If you don't want the physical list to exist (could be found) then memorize it and destroy it. Repeat it every day. You have to come up with your own reasons and then keep thinking about them. It will help your resolve!

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