Yeah. Well. I hear you and I can relate. This sort of thing, this is not acceptable IMHO. I feel the work and the risks etc. of the A must be shared. Can't ever be purely 50/50 but you know what I mean. I might do a little extra driving and waiting around, and sometimes things fall through for reasons out of our control. But for him to summon you and then just swat you off and then not even check on you - it's like he's wiping his feet on your back.
You know what works for me is making myself just a little less available and handy. Amazing how fast that causes a reality adjustment. Either that or kick him to the curb. I've done that too.
time to move on.. fast.. before you and DH get really hurt.. you should not ignore any of these signs anymore. worst you can do is to find another AP. best is to try and build something with DH which is surely tons better than what you got right now. if you give yourself just a month of LC or NC with AP, he'd be long gone.
I'm sorry you are upset and I know how hard it is to move on. I've tried to break it off twice and we keep coming back together. Your AP sounds like such a douchebag, I really want to slap him. Sorry, It just upsets me to hear people being treated this way.
I dont really know what advice to give b/c I'm in the mix of my own situation. Maybe try less contact. That's a small step you could take. I surely know you deserve to be treated better than this and he needs to be kicked to the curb. Only you know when you're ready. Once you reach your breaking point you will be able to let him go. At least you realize who it is you are meant to be with.
Yeah. Well. I hear you and I can relate. This sort of thing, this is not acceptable IMHO. I feel the work and the risks etc. of the A must be shared. Can't ever be purely 50/50 but you know what I mean. I might do a little extra driving and waiting around, and sometimes things fall through for reasons out of our control. But for him to summon you and then just swat you off and then not even check on you - it's like he's wiping his feet on your back.
You know what works for me is making myself just a little less available and handy. Amazing how fast that causes a reality adjustment. Either that or kick him to the curb. I've done that too.
Hang in there!
-jana
time to move on.. fast.. before you and DH get really hurt.. you should not ignore any of these signs anymore. worst you can do is to find another AP. best is to try and build something with DH which is surely tons better than what you got right now. if you give yourself just a month of LC or NC with AP, he'd be long gone.
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Hey Jana,
In what ways do you make yourself a little less available to AP? I just want some different ideas. I do try by turning off
I'm sorry you are upset and I know how hard it is to move on. I've tried to break it off twice and we keep coming back together. Your AP sounds like such a douchebag, I really want to slap him. Sorry, It just upsets me to hear people being treated this way.
I dont really know what advice to give b/c I'm in the mix of my own situation. Maybe try less contact. That's a small step you could take. I surely know you deserve to be treated better than this and he needs to be kicked to the curb. Only you know when you're ready. Once you reach your breaking point you will be able to let him go. At least you realize who it is you are meant to be with.