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Enjoy time together? Hold out hope?
| Tue, 09-08-2009 - 2:39pm |
I posted on here before with some of my dilemma, but it continues.
| Tue, 09-08-2009 - 2:39pm |
I posted on here before with some of my dilemma, but it continues.
JMO but why can't you just contact his "roommate" and talk to her?
If all his friends from work and social life know about you, then you arent exactly a secret and that my guess is the roommate knows about you also. No one seems to have a problem so they would have no reason to send an anonymous email I would immediately think that suspicion would fall on you or someone in your corner and make you look bad. I think that asking to meet her (why havent you already after he's lived with her for 12 months??) and sitting with them to see what the dynamics between them are, would give you a strong indication.
Ask your BF and his roommate out to dinner/drinks when you know she is home, or alternatively, drop by the house so there is no chance of blowing you off. It may be that they are just really close friends (unlikely, but possible) and if you do not want to bring up that you were checking his phone, your jealousy may come off as an overreaction since you have previously been fine with the set up. If he is denying anything is going on, then IMO you may have to bring up the messages as a last resort then see what excuses you get back or his reaction to your checking the phone. If he had nothing to hide, i doubt he will get too angry with you other than to ask why you held your suspicions for so long without voicing them.
Good luck in a tricky situ.
SB
I have never met her because my BF has this "thing" about interacting with people from our sexual past.