ever wondered what the w/h looked like?

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Registered: 11-30-2011
ever wondered what the w/h looked like?
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Wed, 04-11-2012 - 10:57am

I know this is not a good thing I did but I just had to see what she looked like.

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 11:03am

I don't think you'll find an answer in her looks.

I checked the pictures of the AP's wife and it didn't become clearer for me. We're about the same type. Both thin, long dark hair, similar looks. She even had a child the same age as mine when they met. And he seems crazy for me. It has to do with something else and I don't know it.

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Registered: 03-04-2012
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 11:36am
I did see and was rather shocked at the polar difference. The W looks 10 years older and it's certainly not the girly girl type as I am. She is more educated and makes more money than I. There is a reason he did pick her to be his W, but I don't see it. I'm kinda glad I did see the W, however in the long run it really doesn't matter. Their life and choices are what they are.
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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 12:42pm

Hi Lily,

Your AP's wife may not have always looked like that & if she did than maybe he is attracted to her that way OR there is something else that he's attracted to about her. Either way its not always "looks" and we as woman always think its that. It can be something that person is giving you at that particular time. I have seen people cheat on their spouses and their spouse

 


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Rayne


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Registered: 01-08-2011
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 12:46pm

My AP is very cute but not handsome, but very likable.

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 9:10pm

Is your opinion of us guys that low? Even the greatest looks become normal if there isn't an exciting personality behind it. Sometimes that exciting personality becomes normal too and we look for something less challenging and different. Just like taking a break from steak to a burger or a hot dog ;)

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 6:56am

With what you just said, my opinion is becoming even lower lol, so nothing is ever good enough ....

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Registered: 11-30-2011
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 9:53am
Hmmmm, i have been with the same guy for over 10yrs, i'd have to say that to some he would not be considered handsome but i do, and i still do after all this time if not more so. Yes I have strayed but NOT because i was bored with his looks or his personality per se but this other guy - I can't explain it in words properly but there is a different kind of connection, i dunno.
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Thu, 04-12-2012 - 10:10am
:) I felt bad after posting my initial post as I know after re-reading it it sounds soooo shallow of me. I think as a female feeling like you should look good and fit all the time and thinking that is what guys want is embedded in our heads from birth, just by how our society is. It is hard for me to forget that sometimes.
I have heard of guys who cheat on their attractive spouses because they have a bad personality, too vain or high maintenance but want to portray a perfect family and life and that less attractive spouse is lower maintainance, kinder hearted and are more eager to please cause they appreciate that someone good looking is showing interest - they are a safe catch who wouldn't wrong you (like they plan to do to you) .
At the end of the day, everyone is different I guess and everyone feels different.
I am sure that he does genuinely care for his wife, they have 2 young children and he is living comfortably.
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Registered: 09-29-2004
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 2:45pm