Everything is so amazing...pinch me!

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Registered: 05-17-2003
Everything is so amazing...pinch me!
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Mon, 09-15-2008 - 5:59pm

Hi everyone,


I just wanted to give a quick update on my night out with AP/BF from last week. Quick recap: he had sent me a text asking me to look for concert tickets...and then obviously, invited me to the concert. Once I had confirmed that the tickets were purchased, he sent another text asking me if I could take the following day off and could I find us a room for the night...I was ecstatic!


The only sticky wicket in our plans was my STBXH had to pick that very same day to come back to the province, and so my plans to meet AP/BF at my DS house (hoping he could meet my granddaughter) fell through. No biggie and we decided to meet at the hotel. He had a long way to drive to get there and actually left later than he should have so he didn't get there until 25 minutes before the show started! Anyhow, the rest of the night was magical...the show was fantastic (Carlos Santana) and he held my hand throughout. He also held my hand when the show ended and we walked back to the car...it felt so much like we were a real couple and I was in heaven. Neither of us had had dinner so we found somewhere close to the hotel and had a great meal together. Then it was back to the room :)


Obviously we were a bit tuckered but even so, we managed to get a little luving in before sleeping like the dead. I had requested a late check out so we got to lollygag all the next morning. We missed our free breakfast (wink wink, nudge nudge) and once we'd checked out we took ourselves over to the lounge attached to the hotel and had a lovely lunch (along with a few pool games). I so did not want it to end but of course it had to...sigh. We did make plans to meet later at our local watering hole and spent a little time together later in the afternoon. I was bummed that he didn't come over that night but he did come in the morning before he left to go back to the job.


Ladies, I just could not help myself and told him flat out how much I love him. He did not say it back and didn't send me a text once he'd gotten back to his job (which going by his behavior lately, what with all the calls and texts...I thought that was a little strange). I thought he'd freaked out with what I told him and just kind of ignored it. Well, I went away myself last weekend to a friends birthday party and yes, I was drinking and sent him a text. Basically just telling him not to freak out (and he knows that I need to get these things out of me...I just have to). Well, he sent me a reply text telling me that he knows that I need to express myself, XO. He then sent me another (because I told him that I was mad at myself for doing that) telling me not to be so hard on myself, it's all good. WHY do I do this? I know he loves me...I have a problem letting go when we've been together is what it is. On top of that I know that he's going to be LD for weeks and weeks to come and that sucks. Oh, and let's not forget that STBXH called me while I was waiting for AP/BF, basically to tell me that he'd found out (when he tried to use the card) that he'd been taken off my drug plan at work (I had forgotten that I asked for that to be done at one point, the drink you know) and then he started berating me about me trying to get our grown children to meet my AP/BF...saying they don't like him and are not interested. I had to hang up on him. He then left me a message (and I know that he's hurt but I can't help that...he's ripping me off on our separation agreement and has the gall to phone and ask me to pay for his prescriptions?

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Registered: 10-10-2006
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 11:34am
Awesome! I am so glad for you!