Ex-boyfriend still around...
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Ex-boyfriend still around...
| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 3:12pm |
Well hello everyone. I'm the new girl. What do you think? I've been married for a few years and well, it's never been very good. We lived together for 3yrs. before we were married and he cheated on me then. We worked through that but I can't seem to forget it. I believe I loved him when we got married but I've always had a thing for this ex and now he's back in my life. My hb and I have had many problems and they never get resolved not for MY lack of trying. I'm tired of trying to fix the problems. I finally realize he has the problem. I almost left him last year because he physically abused me because I shut his T.V. off(I wasn't nice about it). He didn't beat me but he forced me to the ground and broke my glasses all in front of our 1yr.old. But you know we worked through that too. I can't take it. What if that happened again. I always contemplate leaving, even before my ex started talking to me again. I guess these are excuses so that I can justify getting back with an ex. This man ,my ex didn't want to commit 10 years ago to anyone and he's still not married. I left him for that reason 10 years ago. I still love him and probably always will. Help!!! Any thoughts? Anyone? Thank-you

abuse only gets worse as time goes on. and it escalates and he can kill you!! and your baby will only suffer too. even if your H doesn't actually touch the baby in anger, he/she will hear and see how your H treats you, with no love, respect or consideration. is that how you want you child to grow up??
seriously, whether or not your ex comes back into your life, you need to clean up your life and get on track girl. YOU need to make a move here, to get away from that M and your H. go to a shelter, or to a friend, or your parents. somewhere you and the child are safe. get a job, and get a life honey, without all that drama. if you start complicating your life further with your ex, there will only be more chaos, anger and heartache.
do you think your ex will want to be involved in all that?
i don't mean to be harsh here, just trying to shed some light on your current situation. please seriously think about getting out of there before something really bad happens. stay in touch and let us know that you're okay.
gurl
Edited 3/10/2004 4:48 pm ET ET by geek_chic
go and don't look back please!
gurl
take care,
gurl
1) Dont have anywhere else to go
2) Biggest one of all ....MONEY, is the root of all problems..
3) They are so use to being in that situation, they dont know any different.
4) Scared to make that final move...
from my experience, i know you only leave a situation when you reach your own individual breaking point. no one can talk you into it. it has to come from inside you, doesn't it.
unhappy or not, it's up to the individual to change their own life.
gurl
can you get a better job? then you can start putting a bit of money away ($25 a paycheck), just in case. if your M gets better and you decide to stay, you can pay for a vacation or night at a bed & breakfast, whatever.
communication is key to any relationship, especially a marriage where there are unspoken issues not resolved.
good luck and stay safe,
gurl