Excited! Seeing AP- need to get it out..

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Registered: 11-21-2008
Excited! Seeing AP- need to get it out..
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Mon, 01-12-2009 - 5:40pm
So haven't seen AP in a few months (different coasts) and we set up a meeting for this week that is non-work related. Very excited! We text/email/talk most days during the week and some email on weekends. I was getting nervous and wondering if it was a bad idea because we have only been together twice (where sex was involved- we have been friends for some time) at a conference for work. But, he emailed me and texted me lots of things today and now I am excited and can't wait to see him... he said the same thing in an email (about can't wait to see me).
So, just needed to get it off my chest. I'll see him for 2 days then not again for another few months.....
:) I am totally cheesing right now!!!
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Registered: 10-22-2008
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 7:41pm

Give us an update!

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Registered: 11-21-2008
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 10:53am
So, it happened and it was wonderful! Of course now I am down because it will be months before I see him again. I learned so much more about him as a person, we spent a lot of time talking. Honestly, when this first started I wanted it to just be FWB and I thought he was a player- no reason, just kind of my way of protecting myself. Like if I thought he was a player it'd be easier to keep it FWB and have no feelings. Well, I've come to realize I do care deeply for him. Neither one of us will leave our spouses, so this is what it is and won't ever be anything more- at least not that I can see.
But, it was a wonderful time and I wish we could do it again. Who knows- maybe we will before the next work conference. But I have a feeling I will be posting on here needing support more now because it's going to be harder having developed these feelings.....
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Registered: 04-17-2006
Sat, 01-17-2009 - 5:12pm

Hi Mistakes,

your situation sounds very similar to mine! AP and I are both married and intend on staying that way. We see one another infrequently but have managed to keep this FWB thing going on for a few years. It is definitely a FWB thing, but I would be lying if I said that I didn't have strong feelings for him. I know in another time or place we could have a real relationship and it be something special. YOu are going to be missing him ALOT so I suggest that you continue nurturing and growing in your OWN life rather than spend your time waiting for the next "meeting". I'm curious, how did you see one another in a non work related way ifyou live on different coasts?

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Registered: 11-21-2008
Sat, 01-17-2009 - 10:09pm

" I'm curious, how did you see one another in a non work related way if you live on different coasts?"

Well, it involved some deception on my part to H. H thought it was work-related. I had some free points I could use for flight and hotel so there is no trace of money leading anywhere. I'm not proud of the deception but I did it and AP was cheering me on all the way. His W was out of town, so there was no trail on his end. It was easier to find an excuse for me to be in his neck of the woods than vice versa. While I am not proud, I don't really have any guilt. I don't know what this means.... I am really very confused right now.