Sorry you are going through this. I would say to believe this man when he says the emotions frighten him. At least he is being honest. Thes best thing you can do is back away and give him the space he needs. Let him miss you and come to you on his own. Having said that, you must decide what is important to you in a relationship and lay your cards on the table if/when he returns. Be firm and do not back down. That is the best advice I can offer. Just back away. If it is meant to be, it will be.
I'm sorry you're suffering Moonunit. I, like you, don't understand why he would call and want to see you and then break your heart again. That's cruel. He says you deserve better than him and he's right. He wasn't thinking about your feelings, only his own wants or needs or something when he wanted to see you - regardless of the fact that he must have known it would crush you again if he pulled back again! I hope you can move on away from him, he doesn't think about your best interests at all. In the meantime, ~hugs~ to get you through the following days.
Am glad you understand what is happening because you have read from a few posts similar stories. It rarely ends in happiness just lengthy periods of waiting even years in hopes there is a D.. But all it is is a gamble.. I was in a similar situation and after reading a couple posts and with help of the lovely people who posted here, I knew what needed to be done.. We talked and we ended things.. Its tough because we both know each other very well to tell what the other is going through.. But it had to done.. MM is M and
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Hey Moon,
Sorry you are going through this. I would say to believe this man when he says the emotions frighten him. At least he is being honest. Thes best thing you can do is back away and give him the space he needs. Let him miss you and come to you on his own. Having said that, you must decide what is important to you in a relationship and lay your cards on the table if/when he returns. Be firm and do not back down. That is the best advice I can offer. Just back away. If it is meant to be, it will be.
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