Moon, I have given my opinion on your situ a few times now and you know i have also been following things with you. What you have posted is the only side we see and I am so sympathetic with you, but Iam has a valid point.
You are going crazy with not seeing or hearing from him and I do know that it hurts so bad, but now he is getting the D, why isnt he running to you? There are so many reasons why he is hurting and although he seems to go to his cave a lot, he is pulling away from you a lot also. He wants you then doesnt want you. Its confusing for me and i have no emotions tied up so I can only imagine how devestated you are. I think that maybe you should not put so much weight in his thoughts of waiting after the 2 weeks or 6 months because that says he isnt in his right mind to make any type of decision regarding anything other than his DS.
You are making him your whole world and that isnt healthy because if he doesnt decide to be with you, how are you going to feel? Not only have you given him 3 years but now he is free, he has the complete clear road to go to you and he isnt with you. Please take time for yourself and try to forget about him for a little while. Go NC completely so he can miss you. Dont YIM him or call or send cards. Give him the opportunity to see what life without you is really like so he can make the conscious choice to be with you rather than letting him think you will never leave so he can have you by default.
Loving someone completely doesnt mean to let go of them, no do you have to find another man, it just means giving them space to find their own happiness without worrying about guilt and pleasing others. Wouldnt you want him to be begging for you at your door for the chance to have a life together or would you rather him know you arent going anywhere and thinking you will always be his backup becuase you let him know you are available no matter what.
I am sendign hugs and blessings for you to get throught this rough time and I hope it ends for you soon so you can become happy again.
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Edited 3/22/2010 12:20 am ET by moonunit02
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I know that this is a confusing, difficult situation for you.
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Moon, I have given my opinion on your situ a few times now and you know i have also been following things with you. What you have posted is the only side we see and I am so sympathetic with you, but Iam has a valid point.
You are going crazy with not seeing or hearing from him and I do know that it hurts so bad, but now he is getting the D, why isnt he running to you? There are so many reasons why he is hurting and although he seems to go to his cave a lot, he is pulling away from you a lot also. He wants you then doesnt want you. Its confusing for me and i have no emotions tied up so I can only imagine how devestated you are. I think that maybe you should not put so much weight in his thoughts of waiting after the 2 weeks or 6 months because that says he isnt in his right mind to make any type of decision regarding anything other than his DS.
You are making him your whole world and that isnt healthy because if he doesnt decide to be with you, how are you going to feel? Not only have you given him 3 years but now he is free, he has the complete clear road to go to you and he isnt with you. Please take time for yourself and try to forget about him for a little while. Go NC completely so he can miss you. Dont YIM him or call or send cards. Give him the opportunity to see what life without you is really like so he can make the conscious choice to be with you rather than letting him think you will never leave so he can have you by default.
Loving someone completely doesnt mean to let go of them, no do you have to find another man, it just means giving them space to find their own happiness without worrying about guilt and pleasing others. Wouldnt you want him to be begging for you at your door for the chance to have a life together or would you rather him know you arent going anywhere and thinking you will always be his backup becuase you let him know you are available no matter what.
I am sendign hugs and blessings for you to get throught this rough time and I hope it ends for you soon so you can become happy again.
SB.
Edited 3/22/2010 12:21 am ET by moonunit02
MoonUnit
Edited 3/22/2010 12:22 am ET by moonunit02
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