Falling for him and I can't STOP it!!

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Falling for him and I can't STOP it!!
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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 10:41pm
I'm falling for him...big time. I can't STOP it. How do you stop it? Can you stop it??? I WISH I could stop it.

I'll never leave my H, but my God, I just can't believe this is happening. I honestly never intended to feel this way. But how can I turn back now? I know I should end things before I fall harder, but I can't -- I don't want to.

Just rambling...

Charlotte

 

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 11-04-2003 - 11:47pm

Hi Charlotte,


Honey... I can relate... I never wanted to fall for MM either... knowing that neither of us will leave our respective marriages... but it was something that happened, no matter how how I tried.


I denied it was happening for a long time... but I found that once I accepted it... it seemed easier to deal with.

Sweet
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Registered: 07-27-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 12:09am
Sweet

Your A seems to be the only one I have read about on this board that is a positive thing. It's one of the only hopes I have that this A can actually work in my life and somehow be good for MM and myself.

Yep, I'm still in denial somewhat -- I won't sat IT, I'll say "I'm falling" to myself and post it on this board, but "it's" there. I certainly would never tell him, but I'm feeling it. I think he is too. He actually "slipped" and said it the other day -- we both laughed it off (and I think it was just an accident), but I think he's thinking about it too.

Thanks so much for your response. I hope all is well with you. I need to GET OFF this board for a while -- too much thinking!!

Charlotte

 

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Registered: 11-05-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 2:22pm
Hey,

This is my first time posting on any message board..But it feels great to know that there's someone who feels like me. Falling is not the question...I'm a MW who's in love with a MM. He's a person that I've known all my life. I haven't talked to him in 2 years until 2 weeks ago when we met for dinner and yes the feelings are still there & are mutual..We both love our families & say that we're happy...but how can we be when we have the feelings that we do for each other?

I can't get him out of my mind! All we did was go out to dinner to "catch up"; and unfortunately the night ending with an amazing kiss that brought back many memories of us. He wants to see me again, and I want to see him, but it's just not right...I keep telling myself that it isn't, but the attraction is so strong. I don't know what I'm going to do!

Did I mention that we had the most amazing love making when we did date years ago?!

HELP!!

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 2:41pm
It's funny how things happen, isn't it? MM said he fell in love with me when we were still just friends...the first time he told me he loved me was the first night we kissed and it wasn't too much longer after that, that I was able to return the 'I love you' to him. But what is even crazier is that when we were just friends, I wasn't really physically attracted to him...it was more just an emotional attraction wishing he were a different person because I had all of these feelings for him...I felt so much but he was married, older than me and a friend...but when we got together and kissed for the first time...I felt it all over and I knew I was heading down a forbidden path...but here I am loving him with all my heart and I dont regret a single moment of it.

Some things are just meant to be!!!

Everything happens for a reason!

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 3:19pm
MM & I just had that conversation just 10 minutes ago. I finally sent him the letter I wrote way back in September. He got it and messaged me with a "wow". Then I called him and we talked about what prompted me to send it. I told him something inside of me decided to become vulnerable to him and trust him.

I'm falling too and I DON'T WANT to stop it. I wanted to a month and a half ago, but not now.

Who the hell am I kidding. I'm already in love w/that damn man! I can't believe this. ME in love w/a MM!!!!

Laugh Smiles

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Registered: 09-18-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 8:01pm
Charolette, I totally can relate to your thoughts on this.... This week my MM is away on a trip (school) for the Army. He has no way to contact me really. He did take my H's work scedule so he if he got a chance he would call me, but he hasn't done it yet. Anyway, I've been giving this whole EMA alot of thought and have thought about both sides of it. That R with MM and My R with H. It is hard. I know I've fallen for my MM really hard, like no time between us has past. (we were a couple many years ago, but circumstance got in the way) Now, that we're back together I don't want to lose him again and I on one hand would drop everything to be with him. Now with my R with H, I have thought about it alot too, it isn't perfect, I do love him but not the same as I used too, he doesn't treat me the same that MM does and yet I think, if I drop the R with MM then things would be easier and I could just focus on us.....I am confused too and don't have any real answers for you. I don't know how to stop t his and I don't know how to not keep falling harder for MM. I just wanted you to know I sympathize with you and understand your feelings. I hope you can figure it out.

I want to stop the EMA but also DON"T want to end it either.

Wishing

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 11:11pm
Ladies...

Yep..we're all in this together!!! Can't live with them (LITERALLY!!) and can't live without them. It is good to know I'm not alone.

Thank God for this board!


Charlotte