Feeling bad this time

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Feeling bad this time
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Thu, 04-26-2012 - 7:49am

So a couple of days ago, my AP admitted that he's no longer feeling the motivation to do things in his marriage and that includes sex. And the worse, is that he said that he thought that he couldn't love another woman more than his wife and there he is no longer feeling like he wants to make efforts. I don't know exactly what he's talking about by efforts, since I don't know much about their relationship.

Despite that he maintains that their R has no problems (i.e. nothing serious) and it's his internal problem. That he just constantly thinks about me and desires to be with me instead of being there.

Before he left to Cuba, I asked him how he thinks he could handle this. He told me that me and her are like two different roads and one doesn't influence the other. That he loves us both. That he knew what he was doing. So I figured that it's true, he's a big boy and maybe men are just different in the way they function. Well, apparently he was wrong. He says that he doesn't know why he's feeling like that. Well, I guess, it's pretty obvious: he let himself got involved with another woman and that affected his marriage.

He says that it's affecting his believe in love, that if what he had with her could die, then anything could die. That it's a problem that he

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 10:55am

He's torn between 2 woman, what a bind to be in. Although I'm learning as I go along I do know one thing for sure.....you being in the picture is not helping matters at all and he'll never give his marriage the 100% focus it deserves if he's still seeing you. It's a tough place to be and I'm sure for you as well as your trying to be supportive but have feelings for him as well.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 01-08-2011
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 2:29pm

Sireanita,

I think you need to let him figure out his things.

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 5:15pm

He says that it's affecting his believe in love, that if what he had with her could die, then anything could die. That it's a problem that he