Feeling a Bit Confuzzled

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Feeling a Bit Confuzzled
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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 4:31pm

Given STBXH's recent bout of flipping out and his attempt to create a d-day for AP, I guess things MAY be a bit confusing right now.

anotherseyes

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Sat, 08-07-2010 - 12:08am

Umm...why do you even bother trying to get rid of him?

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Sat, 08-07-2010 - 11:21am

I really thought he might let me go this time, Jane: he was really freaked out!

anotherseyes

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Sat, 08-07-2010 - 12:26pm

That would depend though. If he wanted to stay married, and had a d-day, you would have had to hide much more than you do now. Undoubtedly his W would have insisted that there be no contact with you ever again if he wanted to stay in his marriage. So you'd have to continue hiding WITH a suspicious spouse in the picture - just about impossible!

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Sat, 08-07-2010 - 3:37pm
He's already said that a d-day WOULD result in divorce for them: they've already been separated once and their marriage isn't strong enough to withstand something like this.

anotherseyes

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Sat, 08-07-2010 - 3:47pm

So you'd have to continue hiding WITH a suspicious spouse in the picture - just about impossible!


You are so right Lexi! This is my reality right now and it is nearly impossible...We are just taking what comes our way in the areas of communication and seeing each other...and neither one has manny opportunities at all.

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Sun, 08-08-2010 - 4:18pm

Let me play the devil here ;) Have you thought of 'innocently' creating a dday for him? I would try probably( IF I was single and AP was M but its the other way around,lol!),especially if it would mean a D for sure.

But yeah,if he is just stringing you along and wants to stay M,you might lose what little you have.

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 7:19pm

I would never, ever do something that would intentionally hurt AP like that.

anotherseyes

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 8:37pm

Do you ever feel like you are living in a soap opera now?

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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 5:32pm

Had she checked the mail, I'd be writing entirely different posts right now.

anotherseyes