feeling blue

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Registered: 08-23-2003
feeling blue
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Tue, 10-28-2003 - 3:37pm
I'm feeling down today. Me and my MM have been disagreeing through email and my last one was pretty harsh so now I've sent him 2 emails apolgiZing, but he has yet to answer. I know I just have to wait till he cools down, but it sucks. This is when the long distance hurts. I don't have that luxary of seeing him at the end of the day. Even if we were in the same area. He still wouldn't come home to me because he's married.

We've done this before so I know I just have to wait till he simmers down, but it still hurts. The last time I heard from him was a email yesterday. He's pretty good at the silent treatment. Where I'll be a dam basketcase till I talk to him again.
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Registered: 04-24-2003
In reply to: isunshine35
Wed, 10-29-2003 - 12:40am
hang in there, you sound just like me a few days ago. after writing my message i just cried and cried, hopeing someone would reply.. just hang in there. Sorry my case seems to go to the extream though, he also lives far away, and i told him yesterday in a 3 min phone conversation that i initiated, that its over, and that the past two months have been hellish and wonderful, and that i need more.. he said he would call later to talk, and hasnt' so its really over.. i hope you can work things out, but remember sometimes you have to choose you. Keep your pride, and don't email him again, he knows you are out there.. at least thats what i've been told, and do believe that.. take care
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Registered: 10-23-2003
In reply to: isunshine35
Wed, 10-29-2003 - 7:23am
*HUGS* I feel for you and your situation and the waiting really is the worse! The only thing I can suggest is to never discuss important issues on email or on the phone because of the shield you have when you're not face to face. I know that if I brought up touchy subjects on the phone or via email OM and I would have definately been history by now. The likeliness of a miscommunication and escalating tempers is much greater when we're behind that shield. OM and I have had one very heated discussion and fortunately we pulled it off face to face and worked through it without saying hurtful things to one another...of course I had to stop him from getting in his truck and leaving but that wasnt the hardest thing in the world to do...Another suggestion is to share collected thoughts with your OM by writing him a letter, hand it to him, let him read it while you wait and discuss it when he's done...that way you are sharing collected thoughts and not getting off on tangents.

Best of luck to you but Mikko is TOTALLY right here - keep your pride and let him initiate the next contact...your last 2 emails more than likely said your peace...

cl-liberalgirl

callmeliberal@hotmail.com

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Registered: 08-23-2003
In reply to: isunshine35
Sat, 11-01-2003 - 9:39pm
Yeah, keep my pride. Ha! I feel foolish. After several more emails and a couple of text messages and crying my eyes out. The stinker replied. Well, he replied earlier, but he was still upset which upsetted me more. I should have just let him be, just given him time to "cool down", but nooooooooooo, I didn't.

We're ok now, but I feel so silly now. Silly because I acted like a "little girl" when I should have backed off because he definetly knew where the heck I was!!
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Registered: 04-24-2003
In reply to: isunshine35
Mon, 11-03-2003 - 7:56am
its okay to be silly sometimes. Its okay to feel desperate, and needy... sometimes, but just make sure that next time.. ( sorry but chances are there will be a next time) just cool your head.. ( easier said than done right..) and talk to us here.. we are all needy, messes sometimes, so good luck to you byee
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Registered: 10-23-2003
In reply to: isunshine35
Mon, 11-03-2003 - 8:08am
My OM and I have an ongoing joke between us when we get in that panic mode, that childish way we chase eachother in and out of our "caves"...after about the 3rd call we declare that we are obsessive/compulsive and it seems to lighten the mood some.

He called me 3 times last sunday and his third message was "Here's another message, how's this for obsessive/compulsive?..." LOL That is something that's just become a joke between us...It made me laugh so of course I called him and we resolved our issue...

cl-liberalgirl

callmeliberal@hotmail.com