feeling blue - NC for 5 weeks
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feeling blue - NC for 5 weeks
| Wed, 09-10-2003 - 12:56pm |
Hello everyone, I am new here but have been reading the boards. I was having an 'A' with MM for almost 2 years. It was a physical relationship, and we emailed each other daily basis to keep in touch. About a year ago he mentioned about not seeing each other, but that didn't happen, we continued to see each other. Well, about 5 weeks ago, was the last time we got together. Then he emailed saying he'd like to see me the next week. I haven't heard back from him since!! The longest time period we didn't talk before was about 3 weeks and so now I am worried/upset/confused. I would like to see him again, but I already sent a couple of emails since then with no response, so I'm not going to lose all my self-respect by begging him!! And I am made sad by the fact that he didn't even say goodbye to me if that is what he wanted. I don't know if he will change his mind? Or do men never change their mind once they've made it up?
I would appreciate some advice from anyone who's been thru this and survived!! Thanks.

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i have a 10-year R with my BF and we had the same intimacy problem because he loves the bottle and it was affecting our sex life in a big way. my A started because of that factor and several others, but it is the attention, intimacy and sex that i live for now with my MM. we talk every day and i get nervous if one day goes by that i don't hear from him and it's been over 3 years now.
i hope you can move on and not be toooo unhappy. hang in there honey. time does heal the wounds.
take care,
gurl
my MM knows my BF, i know his W -- we are social all the time and have been friends for over 8 years. my MM is the first man i've actually trusted to "be there" for me, no matter what. he's demonstrated that aspect over and over again, again too long to post here, but it started with 9/11/01 when my MM got me out of DC and put me in contact with his W who picked me up, and we all got out of town in the chaos of that day. all my BF did was demand that i come home, which i couldn't do because of no public transportation moving until late that night. how appropriate since today is the 2nd anniversary.
i don't want to leave my BF but that might be happening shortly and i'm afraid i will then lose contact with MM and W, although MM says that's not going to happen. i have some big decisions to make soon and i'm not looking forward to any of it!
i'm sorry you're depressed. do something for yourself -- get a manicure or pedicure or massage. take a walk. work out at the gym, see a funny movie, anything. keep busy and try to stay positive. this too shall pass, i promise.
contact me anytime -- but during the day here. i can't get on this site at home. and i can't give out my email address for work.
hang in there,
gurl
i have two very, very close girlfriends that i can confide in -- both of whom i feel are my twins (or i guess triples!). they know all and give me the luxury of having someone who listens to all my ups and downs with MM and BF.
i wish you had someone to talk to in person. but if you feel you can't trust anyone, then don't. keep coming back here and talk with us and me.
stay in touch,
gurl
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