My AP (well, xAP as of now) would do the same thing. We would text each other during the day, then poof! - he disappears and I don't hear from him til next morning. I did the same thing for him a few times, and oh boy, he did not like it and shaped up immediately. Point is - they get away with things like that when you let them. Do not call him back a few times, do not answer your phone every time he calls, return his texts 2-3 hours later - leave an impression you really have better things to do in life, then just sit there and wait when he will find some time for you.
We teach people how to treat us. With you being passive aggressive maybe you've been letting him get away with what his doing and not voicing out your point. So, unless you do something to change the way you've been behaving in regards to him, you can't really expect anything different from what you've been getting so far.
By avoiding confrontation, you've become a doormat that he thinks he can just walk all over. By him letting conversations with you drop without real understanding of a definite plan is very rude and his way of controlling the situation. Why would you put up with it without telling him what it does to you? So you're frustrated. Is he aware of your frustration? Or, are you just suffering in silence and he has no clue why. This is what I don't understand with some of us women now days. If we're trading body fluids with someone, we should be able to discuss any issues with them.... where did this cowardice come from?
hello. im mostly a lurker around here, but i had to respond. my AP is notorious for this behavior. And after 7 years, i recently figured out that i was just letting it happen. He works away and so when he gets home, i get ignored alot as his girlfriend doesnt let him out of her sight. well im married and always find time to text. anyway...about a month ago we had been texting as usual until he got home then i didnt hear anything from him for like 5 days. he ignored every text i sent. so around the 6th day, he asks "what's for lunch" and i said i was going out with a friend. he was upset, to put it lightly. my only response to him was that i didnt appreciate being ignored unless it was convienent for him, nor did i appreciate him being mad at me for not being able to go to "lunch" since i hadnt heard from him in almost a week. i know it does sound petty, but i figure if i am supposedly more than just a play buddy i should be treated like more than one. turning the tables has a brought him down a notch or two, a few times. it really does work. if we make it too easy for them they are gonna just walk all over us. in my opinion anyway.
AP never does that to me. He always lets me know he's leaving, or he'll be home and can't text, or whatever is going to be happening. Occasionally he'll send me something but tell me not to reply to it. I would totally lose it if he just disappeared like that. Maybe if you explain to him that when he does that you don't know if he had an accident, or his wife caught him, or What happened and that you start to panic a little, he'll start to be more courteous to you. If he can't say "bye" before he can't text anymore....well. I hope he understands and will work with you on this. I'm sure he will understand where you're coming from. Good luck!
My AP (well, xAP as of now) would do the same thing. We would text each other during the day, then poof! - he disappears and I don't hear from him til next morning. I did the same thing for him a few times, and oh boy, he did not like it and shaped up immediately. Point is - they get away with things like that when you let them. Do not call him back a few times, do not answer your phone every time he calls, return his texts 2-3 hours later - leave an impression you really have better things to do in life, then just sit there and wait when he will find some time for you.
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We teach people how to treat us. With you being passive aggressive maybe you've been letting him get away with what his doing and not voicing out your point. So, unless you do something to change the way you've been behaving in regards to him, you can't really expect anything different from what you've been getting so far.
By avoiding confrontation, you've become a doormat that he thinks he can just walk all over. By him letting conversations with you drop without real understanding of a definite plan is very rude and his way of controlling the situation. Why would you put up with it without telling him what it does to you? So you're frustrated. Is he aware of your frustration? Or, are you just suffering in silence and he has no clue why. This is what I don't understand with some of us women now days. If we're trading body fluids with someone, we should be able to discuss any issues with them.... where did this cowardice come from?
Goddess...you are absolutely right.
Don't let AP take advantage of you, or the situation!
Well..I texted him and told him I want to talk. Needless to say, he kind of freaked out and called shortly afterwards.