Feeling guilty

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2009
Feeling guilty
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Thu, 06-11-2009 - 12:24am

Hi, I'm new here and I'm not sure which discussion board I fit into.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-17-2007
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 8:11am
It has been my experience, that once i made the decision to do the right thing for ME, only then did the guilt go away. And being able to accept the fact we all make mistakes, and forgive one's self, and move on. It sounds like you should figure out where and who YOU are, and moving forward will come naturally for you.
I have no guilt about what i do, and neither does ap. But i still think of myself before him. You say you should maybe move back so everyone will be happy.. what about you? will that make you happy? If so, then maybe consider it. If you see everyone BUT you being happy with it, then its not the right plan for YOU. You aren't responsible for everyone else's happiness.
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Registered: 11-12-2008
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 9:19am
"it would just be easier to go back to him" You said it will be 'easier' ,not something that you want.Your M was by no means a healthy one so why go back to it?You are lucky to have got out of it.As for feeling guilty,well,its just a state of mind.My H cant provide what i need from him,he is not at all guilty of it.Why should the rules be any different for me?I get my needs fulfilled elsewhere ,i dont feel guilty.
I am selfish to some extent,i do keep 'ME' before anyone else but i do as well keep into consideration about how it will affect the people who are good to me,love me and care about me.If the feelings are reciprocated,i would put them before me.I dont want to become a narcissit(sp).
I would suggest dont go back to exH.