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Feeling guilty
| Fri, 10-24-2003 - 3:23pm |
I just wanted to get this issue out in the open and see if anyone has a good way of looking at things. I met a man four years ago and I fell in love with him completely. Unfortunately for me, he was married and had three children. Another big problem was that I was engaged to another person at the time and I was having serious second thoughts. About six months after we met, we went to a work party and had a few drinks and almost kissed. Days later we discussed it and realized that we both had a serious crush on eachother. It was such a hard situation. Two weeks later we kissed and a week after that he left his wife. He told me that he hadn't been happy in his marriage for years and was only staying with her for the sake of the children. His wife was completely shocked by this. I then ended my engagement and we started seeing eachother. It couldn't have gone more perfectly. He divorced his wife and I met his kids and it really was wonderful. His wife though was devestated and said that we ruined her life. A year after his divorce was final we got married and we now have a one year old son. The problem is that I feel so guilty that i might have been part of the reason his marriage ended and that his ex-wife blames me. How can I feel better about this? I should be so happy, but this is really bothering me.

Think of the words of rapper Eminem "If you had one shot, to seize everything you ever wanted in one moment, would you capture it...or just let it slip?" You and your husband were brave and you captured it, don't regret that. I do everyday.
let go of that guilt -- it's not yours anyway. his exW will have to work it out on her own and live her own life. that's not your problem.
live long and be happy, please!!
gurl
Edited 10/1/2004 6:53 pm ET ET by sally289
Hi hon,
I have to say what's done is done! there is not point worrying and feeling guilty about what is now in the long gone past.
Sweet
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Hugs, Mitzy
Ponder this question "what is your guilty feelings accomplishing?"
*hugs*
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