Feeling guilty and bad today....
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Feeling guilty and bad today....
| Thu, 04-22-2004 - 12:02pm |
I am feeling really bad today. As all of you know I left my H shortly after my A started (bad M anyway). Last night right before I went to bed with MM (now b/f, he left M also) my DD called to tell me she lost her first tooth. She was so excited about the tooth fairy coming and it wasn't me. It was her dad and his new live in g/f. I should have been there for that and I cried myself to sleep feeling like the most horrible creature in the world for doing this to my children. To make matters worse H called me yesterday (while I was with b/f) to tell me that he still loved me and if I wanted to come home he'd kick g/f out in a heartbeat. B/f was listening to this conversation and I had to politely find a way to turn down H (because I do feel some guilt for leaving him and hurting him so badly) but at the same time I had to do it in a way that didn't make b/f uncomfortable. I just feel so guilty for doing this to my family. I think I'll go cry now...that's all. Thanks for listening.

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i was in a similar situation when i separated but i actually spent more time with the children while out of the house than if i'd been living there! my xH only lasted 3 months with the children, and i moved back into the house but then xH was depressed and misplaced. so either way, someone will feel guilty for not being there. but take heart in that your children are safe and comfortable and being taken care of with stbxH and GF. as long as you see them and talk with them on a regular basis, the children will be just fine. you, on the other hand, need to stop beating yourself up. life goes on and everyone adjusts. i swear!!
life
do you think it's fair to project your opinions on karen and her situation which we cannot know in its entirety? and why aren't the children fine where they are, safe and sound in the family home, be it with their mother or their father?
just because she's out of the house doesn't mean she's a bad mother, or not bonded with her children, or selfish. i just don't think you can judge someone based on a few lines posted on a messageboard. she needs support, not a punch in the gut!
life
I will not be returning to your board as I do not wish to be disruptive and do not wish to participate in hurtful banter. I just could not resist getting my feelings off of my chest.
Blue
As a father who is approaching divorce, I am absolutely NOT leaving my children. I am leaving my M and I will spend a great deal of time with my kids. I have an extremely strong bond with my oldest son and will with my youngest also. To suggest getting divorced is never okay when there are children involved is unfair. And to suggest only the mother is capable of taking care of the children is even more wrong. So thanks for taking the time to respond to a post. But please take care not to attack someone who is already vulnerable. That was very unfair.
Sorry...
Blue
good-bye...
Blue
unless you've walked in our shoes, you cannot judge.
life
Blue
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