Feeling a Little Lost

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Feeling a Little Lost
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Tue, 09-02-2008 - 12:26pm

Hi everyone.

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Tue, 09-02-2008 - 2:54pm

Hiya hun

"This weekend was something that I had waiting for for seven months."

Well, that's probably your answer - you wait that long for something then you're really going to have it built up in your mind. To be honest, I consider answering the phone to anyone when you're supposed to be spending quality time with someone very rude so that would have upset me, let alone having a full scale row.

I've always felt empty when I've come home after being away with my MM; he has said he feels the same way and we have both noticed that we pull away from each other a little after time together.

I think Iggy is right, you had expectations (and maybe you didn't realise how much) and they weren't met. It may be that you're hurt by that, or that it has shone a bright light into that fog.

((hugs)) to you

D

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Tue, 09-02-2008 - 4:02pm
Darkpools - Thanks for your reply.
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Tue, 09-02-2008 - 5:23pm


Ah right.. Yes, they should be and he's right about how you should think about your kids before him, they'll be grown and flown all too soon, as my MM has been finding out. He comes from a family where the tradition is men provide financially, not emotionally, and I think he's starting to regret that he followed on with that now that they're college age.

Wow, I sure hope his daughter didn't hear that row, that would have been awful :(

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Wed, 09-03-2008 - 11:15am

Hi darkpools - Unfortunately I think his daughters get caught in the middle too much.

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Wed, 09-03-2008 - 5:01pm

Hi lionness..

That's sad :(

I'm not 100% on your story but get the impression your AP is divorced.. so surely he can see whomever he wishes? If his daughter is at college she should be old enough to understand if she should catch you?

As for taking a break.. well, while I don't normally give guys the credit of much sensitivity, he surely can't miss that you were upset by what happened when you were together, or that you were both tired and it was a rush? It could be that he feels that - as you witnessed such an awful row - you have doubts and so he has offered you a way to bail if it scared you.

And I know how hard it is when you have to accept being low on the priorty list when it comes to them finding time.. you just have to treasure what you do get and try not to fret when you can't get it. And lord knows, I am *not* a patient person!

D x

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Thu, 09-04-2008 - 10:48am

Hi D - My AP's daughter knows me, my husband, my kids.

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Thu, 09-04-2008 - 10:58am
Oh,
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Thu, 09-04-2008 - 11:09am

Iggy

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Thu, 09-04-2008 - 12:05pm
Oh, lioness, you kill me, my day is absoultely phenomenal, cause I won't have it any other way, from this day forward, now who am I kidding?
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Thu, 09-04-2008 - 12:11pm
Come on Iggy - We make a good team.

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