Feeling a little sad and bittersweet

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Feeling a little sad and bittersweet
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Sun, 08-08-2010 - 10:22pm

Today is sort of hit me that my new job means that my A will be coming to an end soon.

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 2:04am

Gosh I envy you Jane. You sound so ok and practical about what is bound to be a necessary but painful parting. I so wish i was like that.


I also love how common sense you are about the reason for his entering your life. Reason Season or Lifetime huh- I love that saying. Maybe AP came into my life for a reason similar to yours, or maybe to show me that even my 'pinnacle' man (rich/suave/hard pursuit) isnt as wonderful as my H who has become so attentive its like rediscovering each other.


Who knows. But I like your approach and you inspire me. So let us know how it goes tomorrow when you say that.


Iggy xx

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 8:19am
You're being very reasonable and thinking things through a lot Jane. You are most likely right about the lack of time eventually ending your A, although it could just be that it will change. Maybe you won't have nearly as much time for communication, but maybe the time you have will be enough to keep a good friendship going. It will probably be better that you don't have time for the physical part - as you brought out he never seemed to want that part of it as much as you did anyway. You'll be all busy with your fantastic new job! If your whole relationship kind of ends over lack of time, that is not a bad ending to have. It allows both of you to keep your friendly feelings and have good will towards each other. Yes, tell him all of it before there is no time!

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 10:37am

((HUGS)) Jane :)

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 3:44pm

Hi Jane,


I'd definitely tell him how I feel especially since there will be a possibility of not communicating as much. Even if it does end at least it won't end badly, traggic or with a D-day. You are both in each others lives and have learned from it. You can be happy in all the good things you got from it. I wish you much success in your new job & hope you are exposed to many more opportunities and things that will make you happy.


 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 05-03-2010
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 7:15pm

Many ((((hugs)))) to you Jane!


I love what you said about him coming into your life for a reason, and about remembering what he's given to you and remembering the A with fondness.


You're such a sweet, open and honest person, and hope you're able to find the love and happiness you deserve someday :)

anotherseyes

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 7:28pm

Ok so after all that rhapsodizing about how wonderful he is, the f*cker didn't answer me on Facebook today!

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 7:33pm

You sound so ok and practical about what is bound to be a necessary but painful parting.


Really?!?! Is it believable?

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 7:35pm

Yes, tell him all of it before there is no time!


Now it feels a little too late.

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 7:43pm

Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.


Those are the words I am living by now.

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 7:44pm
Rayne---Good point about avoiding the Dday.

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