Feeling the pain of going NC :(
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| Sun, 09-19-2010 - 9:25am |
Hello
Just had a question about NC
My AP and I decided to go NC - mainly for obvious reasons - both of us have significant others and we decided to do the right thing by goiing NC. After awhile, we would reconnect when we were both single (we both want to get of our current relationships, it's just a matter of time).
I think we both thought that if we gave it enough time, then our feelings for one another will fade, and it would just fizzle out slowly.
I don't know about my AP, since we haven't talked in 4 months, but my feelings haven't faded one bit... If anything, I miss my AP terribly and I can't stop thinking about him.
We both knew it would be hard for us both, but we made the decision to do this anyway.
I guess my question(s) is this for those that have gone NC for a period of time - does it ever work in terms of helping you forget about them? Did going NC end your relationship or did it usually end up with one of you contacting the other one and things started up again? Did going NC help you situation or make it worse?
And lastly, how do I know if this is just anxiety I feel because we haven't talked in so long or is my missing him so much after all this time mean that I really care for him? If only I knew how he was feeling.... :-/
Edited 9/19/2010 9:27 am ET by daisy_girl2010

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ITA with Jane.
anotherseyes
Hi Daisy,
I've tried going NC and it hurts so much that I couldn't go through with it. I ended up with him again and felt instantly better. I promised myself that the next time I post and say its over that I'm 100% sure. I know it hurts like hell & I missed him so much that I looked for him. He would leave me voice mails and I'd automatically run to him, hold him and asked him to stay with me. My AP is single and I'm not sure if he completely understand my turmoil between him and H. He doesn't understand the conflict I have in feeling for 2 men and trying to please them both.
Stay strong Daisy, one day at a time. Keep your head up!
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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