It IS tough establishing, growing, nurturing, and deepening relationships. I take the view that if is meant to be then it will work out regardless what "mistakes" I make.
I don't believe you did anything *wrong* per se for if he was the right guy then it would not matter if you had sex early or not or that you are official or not IMHO.
Sorry that you are feeling such anger, unhappiness, and discouragement.
Aw thanks Mark! I'm glad that you're posting on here, its nice having a male perspective...
I keep telling myself that sex shouldn't be a deal breaker but that if he really liked me and if things were meant to be then it wouldn't matter if I slept with him... Maybe I have anxiety problems but before the sex he'd text me periodically throughout the day and go in depth about how his day is, and how excited he was to see me, etc... now after the sex I get one or two word replies, or a "miss you" once a day... not sure if he's even being sincere in that... or this could just all be in my head...
I understand that is a common behavior. I don't know the psychological/scientific reason on the "why" but that's the way it is for most guys. After the conquest then they lose interest.
Now for me, it is "I want more!" LOL. Take care and huggggs.
BTW I love the Bill Murray movie, Lost In Translation.
Oh Lost, I think it is OK. He wanted to be exclusive right? And he still texts you, right? The intensity does fade after a bit, but that is when the real R starts. Try not to be too needy and clingy. He is an asset to your life, not your whole life.
I want you to stop feeling bad about screwing things up with this guy immediately!!
you did NoTHING, i repeat NoTHING, wrong at all. If a guy is serious about you and really wants you, it doesn't matter if you have sex after 2 weeks or after 2 months. this is for sure.
If he wanted to really date you before sex, then he will want to continue to date you after.
The firefighter may get back in contact with you but probably for a booty call. It IS hard to create a sexual AND emotional relationship. I think having sex "too soon" preempts the emotional connection for guys. I do know that the biochemistry of women of sex creates an emotional tie.
Mark who wants just unfettered sex, sex and emotional connection, and emotional connection without sex
The frequency of communication can be misinterpreted. As you pointed out, it could be just your anxiety. It can be hard to read into why behavior changes. It could be that he is working or being with the guys more or that he ran out of emotional energy and all of that has nothing to do with you.
It IS tough establishing, growing, nurturing, and deepening relationships. I take the view that if is meant to be then it will work out regardless what "mistakes" I make.
I don't believe you did anything *wrong* per se for if he was the right guy then it would not matter if you had sex early or not or that you are official or not IMHO.
Sorry that you are feeling such anger, unhappiness, and discouragement.
Mark
Aw thanks Mark! I'm glad that you're posting on here, its nice having a male perspective...
I keep telling myself that sex shouldn't be a deal breaker but that if he really liked me and if things were meant to be then it wouldn't matter if I slept with him... Maybe I have anxiety problems but before the sex he'd text me periodically throughout the day and go in depth about how his day is, and how excited he was to see me, etc... now after the sex I get one or two word replies, or a "miss you" once a day... not sure if he's even being sincere in that... or this could just all be in my head...
Thank you for your reply!
I understand that is a common behavior. I don't know the psychological/scientific reason on the "why" but that's the way it is for most guys. After the conquest then they lose interest.
Now for me, it is "I want more!" LOL. Take care and huggggs.
BTW I love the Bill Murray movie, Lost In Translation.
Mark
How are you doing lately?
I am curious on how you met the fireman?
Oh Lost, I think it is OK. He wanted to be exclusive right? And he still texts you, right? The intensity does fade after a bit, but that is when the real R starts. Try not to be too needy and clingy. He is an asset to your life, not your whole life.
Hang in there..I think it will be fine.
Lost,
I want you to stop feeling bad about screwing things up with this guy immediately!!
you did NoTHING, i repeat NoTHING, wrong at all. If a guy is serious about you and really wants you, it doesn't matter if you have sex after 2 weeks or after 2 months. this is for sure.
If he wanted to really date you before sex, then he will want to continue to date you after.
Cheer up :)
Sunshine
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Snowstorm-
So glad to see you on here and thank you for the advice! =)
The firefighter may get back in contact with you but probably for a booty call. It IS hard to create a sexual AND emotional relationship. I think having sex "too soon" preempts the emotional connection for guys. I do know that the biochemistry of women of sex creates an emotional tie.
Mark who wants just unfettered sex, sex and emotional connection, and emotional connection without sex
The frequency of communication can be misinterpreted. As you pointed out, it could be just your anxiety. It can be hard to read into why behavior changes. It could be that he is working or being with the guys more or that he ran out of emotional energy and all of that has nothing to do with you.
Let us know how things go.
Take care,
Mark